BC Question and Visual Frustration
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| Sat, 09-24-2005 - 1:37pm |
Well Last Night We enjoyed Alot of Fun Play...
Music, Lots of Great positions. And For the First Time I was able to Let my Husband Just Go For Broke anally, He was able to penetrate from behind (doggie Style) for the first time ever (as I was always too uncomfortabl to do it before, pain wise) But Last Night It felt so great and I could tell he was just loving it... Problem is I was really hoping he'd be able to get some visual satisfaction from it as well as He's been wanting to do it that way for so long! But alas he is Blind as a Bat and cant wear his glasses during sex as They fall off and get in the way. <<< Thats the frustrating part.
The Questions... We've been using those Contraceptive vaginal inserts/sponges. But We hate them - Yah he can come inside me, but Oral sex is horrible as it is Numbing for both of us and has a bad taste. Also It numbs his penis quite a bit and altho it makes him last longer, he lasts long enough as it is.
Any brands or alternatives that wont cause this nasty problem that you gals can recommend? Condoms are a no no, we just dont use them unless we absolutely have to.

There are many BC options out there.
Looks geeky, feels uncomfortable, but some optically challenged atheletes wear an strap from earpiece to earpiece that holds on their glasses.
Considering my wife and I just recently experienced what you did, our first time anal sex, and I really really enjoyed the eroticism that was so much visual... hard to describe without being obscenely graphic.. which is of course the point...but next time put up with awkward discomfort and wear those glasses with the sports strap...
As for birth conrol, dang we had almost the exact same prioblem again as you, what a coincidence. Our solution, hmmmmm not recommended for the faint hearted, 4 BOYS and a GIRL, 14 11 5 3 and 18 months. Finally, birthcontrol is now acheived by rarely having time or energy to HAVE sex with these five incredible little wonders to keep up with...
And when we realized a 6th child might kill us both...had a vasectomy. And not sure it was the best choice.
Is your condom objection a latex allergy? That was our problem, and the alternative non latex darned expensive. If its just that condoms just arent as... well ya know what, sometimes you have to make a tiny sacrifice in the name of being responsible.. and now that your adding anal to your menu, if you just have to be uncloaked and creamy, there ya go... My best friend and wife, we lived together for a while when I was single and these details just sort of became known, well for 17 years they never used a contraceptive, didnt get pregnant, and when everyone family and friend wise was sure one of them was infertile, yep, 2 planned for kids. I knew their secret, she had screaming orgasms from anal sex.. he loved it, so they just never did it the regular way except during menstration.
we've been having anal sex for a couple years now, but only just the other day were we finally able to really let loose. Husband was able to thrust as hard and deep as he wanted in a position that we had never been able to do anally becuase of discomfort on my part (Not mental discomfort I mean physical)
I felt really bad for him as he has been wanting that for 8 years now and Finally I was able to fulfill his fantasy and he gets no visual stimulation.
As far as condoms go - there is no allergy, only the fact that we've been married for 4 years together for 8 always had BC before and never used condoms and we dont want to start now. I havent had BC for 2 years now and we have always been careful even without using contraceptives and havent got pregnant. We already have 2 boys very close in age and dont plan on any more kids for awhile - But both of us want him to be eble to cum inside me, when he cums he Thrusts forward hard several times and hasnt been able to do that in 2 years.
The sponges seemed like a great and inexpensive solution, But after using them a few times we really dont like them, Pretty nasty taste and they are numbing - maybe its the Nonoxyl-9 I dont know. But they are foul.
I started the Pill when I was 15 and didn't *want* it on my parent's insurance. I continued on BCPs when we were newly married and had no insurance, and didn't have the money to have a private GYN. I went to the Dept of Public Health and had my yearly checks for about $15 and the pills cost me $3 a month. I went there for years, even utilized the state subsidized midwives at the connected clinic to have my sons (because their care was better than the GYN group in town) although we had insurance with #2. I continued there even after we had insurance, simply because it was such a better deal and I got excellent care. I'm sure prices have gone up a bit but if I could do it at 15 on my babysitting money, you could probably manage it. The alternative - possibly getting pregnant - is going to cost a lot more.
Edited to say, you CAN get pregnant from anal sex. The possibility exists, so don't think it's a safe BC method. We had a poster here years ago it happened to and she'd never had vaginal intercourse so happens.
Edited 9/25/2005 6:44 pm ET ET by tally33
we arent using anal sex as a BC method -We only have anal about once a month anyway.
Dont you have to Fall into low income guidelines to participate in any kind of state run/ funded clinic like planned parenthood or whatever?
I'll call Planned Parenthood on Monday and see if They help me. I'm not real sure if they can concidering our income is pretty good.