bedroom payback

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Registered: 07-29-2007
bedroom payback
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Sun, 07-29-2007 - 1:20pm

O.k this isn't strictly about sex but this seemed the most appropriate place to post this...

Me and Honey were play fighting and resulted in her biting me lots... she got carried away and several days on I have bruises all over my body! So what is a good way I can get her back? I don't want to let her get away with it! ; )

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Registered: 02-28-2006
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 1:28pm
Did you enjoy what was taking place when you were doing it? If so, why do you feel the need to *get her back*? Games couples play in the bedroom aren't supposed to be competitive, and it isn't healthy for a relationship for them to be so.

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Registered: 07-29-2007
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 1:43pm
Yeah hadn't thought of that... I'm not trying to be competative, I just was concerned that I'd look like a tool for having bruises knew ground for me, then she is in general as she says she doesn't treat men as having feelings... though she does clearly like me. Anyway the point of my post was to avoid her thinking of me as a walkover, which I'm not I'm just not used to girls who are so open to tell you both the good and bad and sometimes I don't know how to respond...
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 1:53pm

What you do is talk with her and set boundaries.


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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 2:20pm

I don't understand? She says "she doesn't treat men as having feelings..." What is that supposed to mean? She thinks it doesn't hurt when you bite so hard it leaves bruises?

If you didn't like it then, you should have TOLD her then....but since you didn't tell her then.....tell her NOW. You don't get "even"......you set your boundaries, and if she continues to do it, then maybe she's not the right partner for you.

Playful nips are one thing, they can be fun. Leaving bruises borders on S&M, and if you're not into it....then tell her to stop. Period.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 9:20pm

Welcome to the board rebel_rebel.

I think you've gotten some great advice here. When enjoying rough play in the bedroom, it is wise to have a safe word as Tish described. If you don't want to play rough in the bedroom, or as rough, you need to talk with her and let her know. Getting even will likely just get you into a situation you really don't want to be in, and it certainly won't teach her how you want to be treated.



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