Being an AA cup turns me off

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Registered: 11-06-2006
Being an AA cup turns me off
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Mon, 11-06-2006 - 7:35pm

I'm a 34AA; as Keira Knightley once said, I don't have breasts, I have pecs.
While the rest of me is 25, my chest seems to be permanently stuck at 11. It's difficult to see a part of your body as sexy when it looks as if it belonged on a child.
The boyfriends I've had have said things like "it doesn't matter, I like you anyway", but I've never been comfortable with having my chest touched or with thinking of it as sexual.

How can I overcome this? Any advice?

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Registered: 04-27-2006
Mon, 11-06-2006 - 9:18pm
I would recommend getting used to it women come in all shapes and sizes. My girlfriend is a 42C but her breasts are far from her only redeeeming feature. She has a very nice body in general and is a very fun person and has a pretty face and she really takes care of herself. I won't lie and say I don't enjoy her breasts when we make love, because I do and she enjoys it when I fondle and lick them. But she also loves it when I kiss and caress her all over her body after all the entire body is an erogenous zone. So get used to being that way, I would not even go there with implants even if my girlfriend weren't well endowed and she would reject the idea anyhow which I would expect her to do. So believe the guys who tell you that, there is more to a womnan than her breasts.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Mon, 11-06-2006 - 10:18pm
I guess that you've got three choices:
1. Spend zillions of dollars to get implants and hope that improves your self-esteem.
2. Live with it and hate your body for the rest of your life,
3. Come to accept that just as breasts come in all shapes and sizes that men also prefer all different shapes and sizes. Accept that there are also men out there that would much rather have a confident, well present and happy woman with smaller breasts over an ordinary woman with bigger breasts. Acknowledge that Keira Knightley has no shortage of male admirers and they haven't been put off by her breast size - or lack of it. Take comfort in the knowledge that if she is doing so well with small breasts then there must be a lot more to a woman's sex appeal than just her breast size.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Mon, 11-06-2006 - 11:13pm

It's really sad that you define yourself and/or your sexuality by your breasts. I would say that most men don't care about breast size on someone that they really care about.

True that most men like to "ogle" big breasted women...but that's because they're abnormal! There are many advantages to having smaller breasts. When you lie down, they don't wind up in your armpits! When you get a little older, they don't sag down to your belly. If and when you have children, just being pregnant, and then nursing will make them larger.

You could always get implants.....and risk the chance of them looking unnatural, which most of them do. Also, are you aware that once they're done, they don't last "forever"...every 10 years or so, they have to be redone.

Once upon a time I was a 34A........and after several years and 3 children, I became a 40DD...and I'd give anything to go back to the 34A.

Your breasts don't make you sexy......your brain does.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 11-07-2006 - 7:47am

Your whole body is sexual and it has nothing to do with your breast size.


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Registered: 09-24-2004
Tue, 11-07-2006 - 9:27am

It really all depends on what is going to make you happy. The other posters have brought up true and accurate facts. Kiera Knightly is only one example, many small breasted women are terribly attractive, and also quite confidant. On the other hand, if it is always going to bother YOU, implants might be the way to go. I know women that have had modest sized implants, just so clothes would fit them better, and they would have more options when buying clothes. I for one, don't get very excited about fondling fake breasts, but I know alot of guys that like them. To tell you that there are not guys only attracted to women with big breasts, is just being naive, they are definitely out there. Just like there are definitely women that are quite concerned about a guy being well endowed. But I have also known guys, that swear they don't care, and much more interested in a nice ass (speaking of only physical traits here).

There are definitly guys out there that will find you just as attractive now, as if you had bigger breasts. There are guys that won't. But then again, some guys just want to find a redhead, or a blonde.... If you are only going to be happy with bigger breasts, go buy some!

good luck

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Registered: 11-06-2006
Tue, 11-07-2006 - 9:36am
Thanks, everyone. I didn't mean to whine about being flat (I save that for when I'm shopping for bras - hard to find one that fits.) It's just that I don't know how to stop thinking of my flat chest as childlike (which is a turnoff for me), and hence I worry that anyone who does find it sexy must have some kind of lolita complex.
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Registered: 01-11-2005
Tue, 11-07-2006 - 5:05pm
i find myself typically attracted to smaller breasted women but have no desire for lolitas, as it were. i have had girlfriends with no breasts that were fantastic lovers and wonderful to be around. you should believe a guy when he says it doesnt matter. we dont like to be decieved about our 'parts' and give the same in return.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Tue, 11-07-2006 - 5:05pm
I don't think that is the case at all. I doubt that you look like a child generally speaking. The flat chest is only one part of a whole package that makes you who you are. There is a lot more that defines what you look like and how you behave than a chest. Maybe if you dressed like a child, acted like a child, and looked like a child the chest would factor into the "Lolita" image? But on it's own, No, there is no Lolita-thing going on in the head of a guy that is attracted to you.
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Registered: 10-14-2006
Tue, 11-07-2006 - 10:15pm
You should celebrate your sexiness. There is nothing sexier than a smaller breasted women wearing classic clothes and going braless. You can carry that off with class and subtlety. You can exhude confidence. Take advantage of what you have and use it to make you feel better about yourelf. Be and feel sexy.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Wed, 11-08-2006 - 12:21am
If a man is attracted to you, and gets to know you and love you for who you are, he is going to accept your breasts as part of you. Don't "assign" complexes to a man, when the "complex" is yours. As I said in my first post, breasts don't define you. If you fell in love with a man, would you be upset if you found out he had a smaller than average penis? And if that didn't bother you, would that mean you have a "little boy" complex? NO, it would mean that you love him, and everything about him.

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