Being an AA cup turns me off

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Registered: 11-06-2006
Being an AA cup turns me off
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Mon, 11-06-2006 - 7:35pm

I'm a 34AA; as Keira Knightley once said, I don't have breasts, I have pecs.
While the rest of me is 25, my chest seems to be permanently stuck at 11. It's difficult to see a part of your body as sexy when it looks as if it belonged on a child.
The boyfriends I've had have said things like "it doesn't matter, I like you anyway", but I've never been comfortable with having my chest touched or with thinking of it as sexual.

How can I overcome this? Any advice?

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Registered: 11-06-2006
Wed, 11-08-2006 - 11:55am
All right. Maybe part of the problem is the way women are encouraged to think of themselves as a bunch of parts, instead of a whole. I'm afraid going braless isn't an option, even if it would be great for my wallet. :)
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Wed, 11-08-2006 - 1:37pm

I don't think women are "encouraged" to do anything at all. Nor are they "encouraged" to think of themselves as a "bunch of parts". Women can and should think for themselves. Just because runway models are anorexic, that doesn't mean all women want to be toothpicks. And have you checked out the breasts of most runway models? They're practically non-exsistent......and most of them go braless!

Women that are secure in themselves realize that NO WOMAN is perfect, and no normal rational decent man expects perfection. Sure, there ARE men who "like" big breasts, and like to LOOK at them, but they realize they're usually phony, too. That doesn't mean they want THEIR mate to look like that....only that they're an oddity to be gaped at.
And who would want a man who bases his "feelings" on your breasts, no matter what their size! If a man can't see and appreciate ALL of you.....he's not worth your time.

The bottom line is that if it bothers you that much, you can have implants. But, when you're done, you will still be the same person, only with larger breasts.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 11-09-2006 - 10:24am

The only women who are encouraged to look at themselves as parts or they should look like this or that are women who allow themselves to fall for that crap.


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Registered: 06-07-2006
Thu, 11-09-2006 - 11:20am
I must say this topic is close to my heart... or my breasts. lol. I am really small also, and I used to - and sometimes, still - have somewhat of a problem with my size. It's usually because I like those sexy tops with the cleavage popping up, that I don't get to wear. All I can say is love yourself the way you are because hating them won't change them. You already said your SO loves you the way you are, so you should too.
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Thu, 11-09-2006 - 3:01pm

Whenever I watch the commercials or open a magazine that's aimed at women, I'm swamped with messages: "do this to your eyelashes", "do this to your face", "do this to your legs" and so forth. I'd argue that these messages do encourage me to think of myself as a collection of parts that need improvement in some way - it sells. You may be right that only a woman who wasn't secure in herself would buy into that, but it would probably be easier for many women to *be* that secure if it wasn't for all this. It is possible to be affected by that kind of message even if you think for yourself.

(And again, the point of my post wasn't to whine about my flatness, it was to ask what I could do to stop thinking of it as childlike.)

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Registered: 09-28-2004
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 9:04am
It really depends on the guy. A "breast man" (a guy with a fetish for big boobs) will find it a turn-off, but for many guys, it's your face, your butt, your crotch and, yes, your small boobs that do it for them visually. I know that I used to work with a small-breasted woman who was really hot, especially if she left her blouse open and you could get a real good look at her "cleavage". Because she had very small breasts, she could get away with exposing more of her chest. It was very distracting to say the least. I'd say use your small breasts to your advantage. You'd be surprised that many (maybe most) guys couldn't care less. You may not believe me...but it's true.
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Registered: 02-10-2007
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 8:24pm
Sweet, I ceratainly can't tell you how to feel about yourself, but let me assure you that many, many men find a small breasted woman to be sexy as hell. I know--I'm one of those men. I have dated women with all breast sizes, and by far, the women I've dated with small breasts have been the greatest turn on for me. It's also been a great pleasure for me to see and feel how erect a small breasted woman's nipples can be during lovemaking. Sounds silly, but if you're caught up in the moment, you always know where to put your lips and tongue. I can't explain my fascination with small breasts, but give me an AA woman anyday. I wouldn't change a thing--YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL AS YOU ARE!!!
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Registered: 01-21-2007
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 12:31am
Don't know how you can overcome it. I am a 34A. I'm a lil bigger than you, but I know how you feel still. All I could say is I'm sorry. *shrug*
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Registered: 05-16-2004
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 4:00am

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Don't worry about breast size, any thing more than a mouth full is wasted. There is this girl I know that is almost flat chested but she is 100% girl and super sexy. Attitude wins every time.

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Registered: 02-21-2006
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 4:48am
I know its been a while since you posted your first message so hopefully your still following. I have really small boobs too but have never once had a problem with it. I love it!!!! i can pull almost any top off and still make it look classy. i mean how trashy can you possibly look when you dont have cleavage?!?! clothes look way better on me than some of my friends with bigger boobs. but i dont care!!! i have a boyfriend and couldnt care less what he could think. i mean of course i care. he loves me very much but i have never once felt bad or less sexy for it. i hate bras that are padded. i feel like i look wierd and i always feel heavier looking when i wear padded bras. I mean a little bigger boobs wouldnt hurt anyone but i feel so comfortable and happy the way they are now. girls who dont have really big boobs who are confident about it look amazing! there are tons of celebrities, as have been mentioned in previous posts that look incredible. kiera knightly .. another is gwen stephani who is so stylish and confident you would never think twice about how good she looks despite the fact that shes flat as a board :) i really really hope that you can overcome your self confidence in this area. enjoy it and love it.