Being Dumb About Sex Saved My Sex Life
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| Sun, 05-25-2008 - 11:03pm |
Thirty years ago I was violently raped by an SOB in a white pickup truck. To top things off, he ran over me with his truck and left me for dead. Badly injured I somehow survived. I was around thirteen at the time. Every single day since then the memory of that morning stays in my head. Like my shadow I see the white truck in my every thought. For thirty years I considered myself to be a stupid fool (foolish 1) because when the guy was raping me I didn't know what he was doing. All I know was that he was hurting me, the burning pain in my butt and he was biting me on my private parts. Luckily I fell out of his truck onto the pavement and he kissed me off with the right rear tire of his truck. I've always thought to myself, "Robbie you're a dumb ass", for not knowing what he was doing, you were thirteen for gods sakes. But I've always had a happy and healthy sex life. My spouse and I have hot sex together and in my single days I don't remember having any problems. About a month ago I had written a posting for ivillage and it got me to thinking. Why do I like sex considering I had been raped. I would have thought that my rape would have had a negative effect on my sex life.

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Robbie, I'm a guy and have never suffered an assault as you have. So I can't speak from experience nor see things through your eyes so as to give you the support you deserve.
I can only give you my sense of disgust as to what others of my gender are capable of and I assure you it is strong.
However there are a number of ladies around these parts who have experienced sexual assaults and rape, who bravely share their stories, who today have found some measure of healing. They are here, as you are.
No one is going to think you are a sicko...we'll save that for the one who brought this pain to your life.
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The links that Magenta gave you are to some wonderful boards. Many people there have been through similar types of situations. If you don't want to seek counseling, perhaps joining in on one of those boards will be helpful.
As you've already seen, the members here are very supportive and helpful also, so feel free to vent here whenever you feel a need. I know when things are havy on my mind, sometimes it's helpful to just be able to talk them out.
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Things are indeed looking up!
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