Being on top

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Being on top
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Fri, 12-23-2005 - 10:34am
I've always read that most women like being on top. It's supposed to do with the position of the penis going in. My wife gets on top and has orgasms in that position and only that position. The only thing I wish she would do is fondle her breasts while on top. I'm wondering how many of you other women do that? I've had other lovers do that and I can assure you that men love that. It's like being up front and personal at a strip club. It's also great to let your breasts dangle close to our face. But when she gets on top, it seems to be all about her getting an orgasm.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: manunit
Mon, 12-26-2005 - 3:16pm

For me (us), being on top, missionary, doggie or any position isn't to just reach orgasm for either one of us, it's to make it fun, exciting, pleasurable for both of us.


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In reply to: manunit
Mon, 12-26-2005 - 4:32pm
Why don't you just simply ask her to?
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In reply to: manunit
Mon, 12-26-2005 - 6:59pm
Well, I guess the whole point of the fantasy, and why it was a fantasy, was that it would allow me, at least occasionally, to be the one who was being pleasured, instead of the usual situation where I was the one doing the pleasuring, and all the work. I certainly never expected it to become a common occurrence, just every once and a while, as opposed to never. I never intended it to always be one-sided either, since I also had a fantasy of watching a woman bring herself to orgasm while on top. That would have been a turn-on too.
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Registered: 10-12-2005
In reply to: manunit
Tue, 12-27-2005 - 9:28pm
Yes, I fondle my breasts when I'm on top, it's exciting to see how much my bf enjoys this. I've also used a small vibrator in this position, extra nice. We both also enjoy it when I am on top and facing the other direction (reverse cowgirl, I think it's called:) He says he likes me to grab his ankles and I must say it's great for balancing, and he does like to watch it from behind.
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In reply to: manunit
Wed, 12-28-2005 - 11:37am
As I said...it is for HER! She cannot orgasm any other way.
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In reply to: manunit
Wed, 12-28-2005 - 4:35pm

Is it hard for her to O? If so, then maybe she's just getting hers and then letting you get yours. Sex shouldn't ever be about just reaching O. I totally agree with Tish on this. On top can be a magical mystical place for both. Then again bud, maybe she gets so into you on top and so wrapped up in how you make her feel when on top she is "locked in" until the O comes. Who knows but her......ask her if she would be comfy with self stimulation of her breast or clit or even stimulate other parts of your body while on top. Maybe she's clueless to how you feel and what you would like.
I certainly wouldn't say anything about a stripper or anything though.

Again, I agree with what Tiff said on this one, just may not be a good idea to mention it would be like being up close, center stage, whatever to a stripper. LOL!!!

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In reply to: manunit
Wed, 12-28-2005 - 4:44pm
OK, I understand that, but, once she's had her orgasm, couldn't she then try to bring him to orgasm? Or are women like men in that when they're done, they're done?
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In reply to: manunit
Wed, 12-28-2005 - 5:09pm

No rice71, women aren't done when they're done, I think is how you put it. I can have several, one right after the other, keep going and have several in a row again.
I didn't understand this to be a "she gets on top, gets her O and it's over" thing. Is that how it is? I thought he just wanted a little sumptin-sumptin out of her being on top as well as her getting her O.
Communication can open many doors and vastly increase the enjoyment of your sex life........talk to her.

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In reply to: manunit
Wed, 12-28-2005 - 5:09pm

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Wed, 12-28-2005 - 10:07pm

>>>OK, I understand that, but, once she's had her orgasm, couldn't she then try to bring him to orgasm? Or are women like men in that when they're done, they're done?<<<<

What do you mean by done? Once I've had one orgasm I just keep on going until either I'm totally exhausted from too many orgasms and exercise (in which case we switch positions so he can take over) or he orgasms. No point stopping at one orgasm if you can have plenty hehe.