Being on top-advice

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Registered: 09-18-2005
Being on top-advice
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Sun, 09-30-2007 - 4:47pm

Need a little help in this department.. Umm. I've been with one guy (6 years), and he's always taken the lead. I definitely have not had much experience in this part, being on top. Anyway, we had a falling out because he was a cheater and a jerk. But for future reference I could use a little advice.. what do guys like? I feel kind of stupid because after 6 years.. I feel like I should KNOW. I don't want the next guy to be disappointed. Also, in either position, even when I tried, I wasn't able to achieve my O, only through oral. Aargh.. a bit frustrated. Would like some tips in what's good for me, for them., etc..


Thanks everyone.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 09-30-2007 - 5:20pm

Welcome to the board liley7s. One thing you might want to do is hang around and read some of the posts here. Feel free to jump into the conversation any time too.

Your question is kind of "big". There's lots you can do, and there's lots guys like. Also, having an orgasm, especially during intercourse, is difficult for many women -- some never achieve it. I'm going to include a few article links here for you to read. That can get you started to see what your real questions are (you may well know more than you think). If you come up with some more specific questions, feel free to start a new thread.

A great website you might want to take a look at is www.the-clitoris.com. There's tons of information there about how your body will respond to stimulation. Being in touch with that and having a good lover can make all things possible. You can also learn a lot of things through masturbation. Even WOT can be practiced by straddling a couple of pillows.

You on top: The sexiest mattress moves of all: http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/sex/no/articles/0,,426380_500115,00.html

Our Favorite WOT Sex Positions
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,askmen_bzmmks1k,00.html

Know Thyself: The Female Form 101
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexsolo/0,,traceycox_b6vtmjv3,00.html

The Dire Truth about Conventional Orgasms
An excerpt from "Unleashing her G-Spot Orgasm"
http://health.ivillage.com/sexualhealth/sxarousal/0,,9w9z10xq,00.html

3 Surefire Ways to Please a Man in Bed
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,drpatti_mg4w,00.html

Hopefully these articles will help to answer many of your questions, or at least narrow them down a bit. As you read through the other posts on the board, you will get new ideas and find links to more articles as well.










iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2005
Sun, 09-30-2007 - 6:47pm
Thanks Misty, now all I have to do is find a new man to try my new moves. lol
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2006
Sun, 09-30-2007 - 11:46pm

There is nothing that "guys" like.......or don't like.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 10-01-2007 - 3:26pm

Good luck on your quest!

We'll be waiting on a report of how well your new moves work ;-)