the best he's ever had....?

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the best he's ever had....?
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Mon, 04-28-2008 - 12:11am
Ok, I'll start by giving a little background info: my bf and I are in a serious, long-term relationship and are planning to get engaged soon. We have really amazing sex. He's the best I've ever had and I just assumed I was the best he's had, too. Never really thought too much about it.so my bf and I were on the phone earlier, talking about sex and I said "yeah, i know i'm the best you ever had, hahaha" just joking around, being silly. Then, he started laughing and kind of changed the subject. I was like "hold up! Am I the best, or not. You can lie to me, I'd like to think I am at least!!" He laughed and I kept saying, "well?" and the more he laughed, the more flustered I got. He said he was trying to tell me I was the best, but why the heck did he laugh about it?! And he didn't say I was the best until after we got off the phone and I sent him a text. (Yeah, it might be ridiculous, but wouldn't it hurt your feelings if your bf/gf laughed when you asked them if you were the best and then they changed the subject?) It made me wonder if he was being honest when he finally said I was the best or if he was just trying to get me off his back. ugh. What do you think?
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Wed, 04-30-2008 - 7:44pm

"Thank god she's my friend and not some random unknown woman."


The fact that she is your friend, makes it better? WHY?


Because you get to find out (unbenounced to her) what he gets up to?


I wouldn't want anything to do with either of them given, "he would have had sex with both of you, in the same bed, on the same day".


"It is NO fun thinking about your bf's sexual exploits with other people" I agree with that one, but I must say I think it is far WORSE when he is doing your friend.


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Registered: 04-13-2007
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 1:43am

No I respectfully disagree; the fact that she's my friend -- and she still is, it wasn't her fault at all

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Fri, 05-02-2008 - 2:05am

Adding her to his list of conquests is one thing when he is not with you but another when he is.

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Fri, 05-02-2008 - 8:47am

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Mon, 05-05-2008 - 11:19am
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Mon, 05-05-2008 - 1:16pm

Bad question to ask. For him there is no right answer. If he says Yes then you think he is lying and if he says No..welll then he will need body armor.


You can always torture him some more....ask him if you look at in some dress...:) I always use to do this to H just to see the look of shear panic on his face.


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Mon, 05-05-2008 - 1:32pm
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Registered: 04-13-2007
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 1:55pm

Sorry, I meant that only in terms of, if he has to have sex unprotected with someone else, I'd far prefer it to be someone I know and whose life I have some clues about than some random person.

Don't get me wrong, it still freaks me out to know it's been inside her -- not a good feeling. I also can't help but wonder what he did with her -- did he get a lot of bjs? facials? did she shave herself for him the way he likes? can she deepthroat? did she talk to him in bed like i do? lol but ewww it's just awful to think that some of the things we have grown to bond over might be exactly what they did too.

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Mon, 05-05-2008 - 2:13pm
I agree Size and to be honest, I'd be disgusted and hurt that he went & did that while we were together.

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Mon, 05-05-2008 - 6:22pm

Thanks for that. The proof is in the pudding though ... we've been just dandy for ~five months now since that ended. I just love being around him, and there's been no sign whatsoever of a recurrence of that type of thing. Forgiveness is good. It makes me feel great to extend it. The day I become perfect I'll stop forgiving. Not like I'm a doormat, at all; it's just that in this instance it is the right thing. Also I try to have a sense of humor about it -- not sure it was the darkest thing ever, he has screwed so many girls that one more hardly makes a difference lol.

What's really amazing is that during that period it wasn't as though he was lacking for sex -- he was HIGHLY sexed with me alone. Where did he physically get the desire to hang out with her too? For crying out loud, he must have spent half of his waking hours with an erection and an adoring girl on the other end of it!!!