Better orgasms

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Registered: 01-07-2007
Better orgasms
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Fri, 07-27-2007 - 11:18pm

Hi everyone,

Not sure if I am the only one affected by this - but are there any good tips for how to have better orgasms? They're nowhere near as good as they used to be, and because I have a terrible time getting there, I always feel really disappointed...

Like tonight, I'm masturbating for *ages* and it's like "Ooooohhh!!! Oooooooooohhhh!!!!! COME ON!!!" and then after about 45 minutes I *finally* get there and it's ......... "Uhh.." "Oh." That's it. About two seconds.

I'd try again, but it normally takes the same amount of time for the same result. :-(

Any suggestions?

Thanks,
Clare.

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Registered: 03-08-2004
In reply to: clare20071
Sat, 07-28-2007 - 10:24am

You've posted the same type question a few times about not being able to O,

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Registered: 01-19-2006
In reply to: clare20071
Sat, 07-28-2007 - 3:39pm
I agree with Tish, it sounds like you're making it a chore. If you fantasise, get a good scenario going in your mind, if it's taking too long, stop, let the blood that is congested in your genitals retract somewhat, breathe deeply to get oxygen in, and start again slowly.
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Registered: 08-13-2007
In reply to: clare20071
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 12:16pm
I know I'm male but in my experience (of giving oral sex) the best orgasms sort of creep up on you. Try trying to achieve a high degree of arousal and concentrate on creating good feelings - not trying to get to orgasm too quickly - make sure there is no rush and you have plenty of time. Just pleasure yourself. Make sure too you are not tired. Fantasies help some people as can erotic literature (women usually prefer stories to pictures. Good luck!
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Registered: 01-04-2006
In reply to: clare20071
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 12:45pm

"Like tonight, I'm masturbating for *ages* and it's like "Ooooohhh!!! Oooooooooohhhh!!!!! COME ON!!!" and then after about 45 minutes I *finally* get there and it's ......... "Uhh.." "Oh." That's it. About two seconds."

Maybe you built differently. My partner the first one is never that good. Pleasant might be a good way to describe it. It's hard for her to relax. It takes some effort to get going. It will generally take her till the third or fourth orgasm to really feel a wow. That's just the way she works. Been that way for over 20 years. So we just have fun getting there on the days she feels like making an effort. :-D

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: clare20071
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 2:23pm

Welcome to the board dumpster2007, and thanks for joining in the conversation. I hope you'll visit August Roll Call and let us get to know you a little bit better.



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