BF Can't Keep An Erection

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Registered: 05-19-2003
BF Can't Keep An Erection
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Fri, 12-14-2007 - 1:29pm

We've ben together only a little over 2 months and everything is otherwise great but my boyfriend can't keep an erection during sex.


We've only managed to have sex all the way through ONE time. All the other times, he either loses it completely or he loses it, has to stimulate himself to get it up (which can take awhile), then we continue. But he always loses his erections.


We're both 29, and he's otherwise healthy. He claims its nerves, but I'd hope he'd be getting over it by now. Also, he can't seem to keep an erection using a

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 12-14-2007 - 1:47pm

ED (erectile dysfunction) can be caused by both medical and psychological reasons, so it is possible that it is his nerves. Because it's embarrassing for him to loose his erection, that can explain why it's taking a while to get it back. Also, if he worries that he'll loose his erection, then that will work against him.

Do you know anything about his masturbation habits? Is it possible that he is masturbating frequently and/or using pornography for stimulation? If he's having problems with ED, his masturbation habits could contribute to that.

Unless you can isolate why it's happening, then it really is important for him to see his doctor. ED can be a sign that there's a more serious medical problem developing, and it's more common than either of you likely thinks it is. I'm posting links to a couple of resources below that you might want to review. Hopefully they can help you understand ED a bit more, and give you insight as to how to help him with what's happening.

iVillage Total Health: Erectile Dysfunction Affects 18 Million US Men
http://health.ivillage.com/di/dinews/0,,wbnews_b6skrsst,00.html

How Stuff Works: Erectile Dysfunction
http://health.howstuffworks.com/how-erectile-dysfunction-works2.htm

Medicine Net: Causes of Impotence
http://www.medicinenet.com/impotence_ed/page2.htm#cause

Out of Order: Your Guy's Performance Problems
How to react in a way that will help resolve the issues
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexconcerns/0,,traceycox_bq929plg,00.html?nlcid=ls|06-28-2007|

Keep us posted on how things are going.