BF decides not to have sex
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BF decides not to have sex
| Sat, 07-24-2004 - 10:23am |
My bf and i have been going out for a little over a year. We are quite serious, and we both love eachother very much. About a month ago i went off birthcontrol and i had a scare where i thought i was pregnant. It turned out to be false and i immediatly went back on birth control. Now my bf has decided that he doesn't want to have sex until he is married. I ask why and he says that he is now really scared that i might get pregnant. I told him i am on bc and we can use condoms too but he still doesn't want to have sex. I am so upset because it is really strange that he just decides this now. I tried to tell him that its completly safe but he doens't want to even talk about it much and gets all weird. He then told me that he is afraid that i might break up with him or cheat on him b/c we can't have sex! I would never do that but i was still very hurt. Does anyone else think that this is werid. What do i do! Im 21 i should be having sex!!

How long til you 2 are married?
I also had a scare of unwanted pregnancy (20 years ago). With 1 son, my wife (and I) desided for vasectomy. The vasectomy really helped my marriage. Mac
Why he doesn't understand that it's ok now....who knows. Have you explained to him that it's virtually impossible to get pregnant while on b/c? If you take them properly, you don't ovulate, and without ovulation, there's no egg to fertilize.
Stranger yet, since he's decided no more sex, now he's worried you'll cheat on him? If he has that little trust and faith in you, then I'd question the whole relationship.
Of course the simple solution would be to resume sexual relations, but you can't force him to do that. You two need to talk about this a LOT more.