Bf doesn't make me feel like a woman

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Bf doesn't make me feel like a woman
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Thu, 02-03-2005 - 4:26am
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Edited 8/26/2008 6:16 pm ET by inacolada

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Edited 8/26/2008 6:16 pm ET by inacolada
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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 5:17am
Male/Female vocab! One day my DW and I were getting ready to go out. She asked how she looked. I said she looked "FINE". Well, I almost lost my head. I guess "fine" to me was NOT the same as "fine" to her. Sometimes as men we need to choose our words more carefully. I think you are getting too upset over his choice of adjectives. He probably isn't even thinking about it. I'm sure he thinks you look "hot" and "sexy" but isn't using the right words. You could always give him the vocab. adjustment my wife gave me!
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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 9:34pm

I would take 'cute', lol. I have been getting 'cute' all my life. Dh says I'm beautiful, I know I've seen other men give me a twice (or three times) over when I'm somewhere, but pretty much everyone I've ever known calls me 'cute'. I'm still getting 'cute' at age 38. When do I become A VIXEN ????? (lol)

I learned to deal with 'cute' a long time ago. I'm only 5', I'm rounded (as opposed to angular and thin...I've got curves). I have long curly red hair and still have freckles. I love people, meeting them, talking to them (my boss told me that she has never met anyone like me who could talk to anyone about anything...and that if Walmart paid good money for their greeters, there would be a line 8 miles long just to talk to me). I'm bouncy and friendly because that's just my personality. It's just ME. I'm never going to be the tall bosomy blonde with drop dead looks and I'm never going to be the smoldering black haired vamp slinking around. I would *like* to be, but it ain't gonna happen in *this* lifetime. So I developed sexy cute. I've learned my personality and type and like them very well and I've taken that and run with it. Cute sexy still has its admirerers.

My two best friends have left me alone with their Hs many times over, in spite of one H's hankering 'for a fiery redhead'. She told me "It's because I know YOU. I trust YOU. I would never even stop to consider that I should worry when you and 'J' are alone." That night, I groaned to my mother and said "I'm the woman every wife would leave alone with her husband. Just ONCE I'd like to be the woman NO wife in her right mind would leave alone with her husband!"

I think you have to figure out your type and work with what you've got. *That* is what being sexy is all about. I can be sexy, but's never going to be what some people would consider sexy. But it works for me.

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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 10:48pm
I almost told my DH that he looked "smart". Then I realised that I was using the word my Nanna used to use!
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Sat, 02-05-2005 - 9:10am
My wife is like the last post. Five feet tall, green eyes, thick auburn hair, very petite, great athletic body. I call her "cute" all the time which I think she likes because I don't get corrected. She is beautiful to me but I also catch her turning the heads of other men. No, she is never going to be the runway model beatiful. But she has that certain something that "cute" describes perfectly well.
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Edited 8/26/2008 6:17 pm ET by inacolada
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Sat, 02-05-2005 - 5:13pm

I think you can be tall and cute. Think Cameron Diaz (she's 5'9) in 'There's something about Mary' She was very sexy and very cute.

BTW, when I've said that I'm sexy - I just wanted to add that my DH has NEVER called me sexy. Despite being 5'7, I still think he'd be more likely to describe me as cute.

edited to add:
Be careful of what you wish for. When I think of the word sexy as a description, the impression I get is of an unapproachable, smouldering vixen. I think it's far better to be like Mary. That is; cute/sexy and approachable.




Edited 2/5/2005 5:16 pm ET ET by iv_aisha2004
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Sat, 02-05-2005 - 8:23pm

Nope, I didn't intend to convey that message. But I think that someone who *is* on the short side - or perhaps we should say 'petite' - seems younger and therefore more 'cute', in many people's minds. Personally, I don't mind being considered cute. It'll be a lot easier to hang onto cute and be a cute little old lady than it would be to try to be a sexpot old lady, lol.

I don't think cute has to negate any sex appeal, actually the opposite. And there are all kinds of sexy. I can be damn sexy and I don't think it's a trampy way. Dh tells me I look good, he tells me I'm hot - he's never called me cute though, that's what I've always gotten from everyone else. My sons' girlfriends "Your mom is so cute!" I doubt they'd say "Your mom is so sexy!" lol.

Editing to say: If you read my first post, I said I was called 'cute' most of my life, not only because I am short, but *because* I have red hair, freckles, and *because* I am the bubbly, bouncy type. It's more about personality type and how you develop than about height!!! Cameron Diaz is cute in the movie because her character was written that way. You don't even really know how tall 'Mary' is. But she's an actress, playing a cute part.

Catherine Zeta-Jones, Nicole Kidman, Halle Berry to me are sexy. Kirsten Dunst, Drew Barrymore, and Kate Hudson are cute. But they are also sexy in their own way.




Edited 2/6/2005 6:47 am ET ET by tally33
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Sun, 02-06-2005 - 6:09am
my wife is just like Tish. Jeans,carhart work pants, tee shirts and ball caps. She can't wait to get out of a dress, but when she is in the "little black cocktail dress" she looks amazing. Is she sexy? Yes, even at 5'. She has a rock hard body even after 3 10lb. baby girls but 99% of the time I would say "cute" describes her perfectly esecially with her pony tail sticking out of the back of her John Deere ball cap.
Is she sexy in her work clothes? I think so because I know shes hinding a black thong under her insulated Carharts when we are cleaning the horse barn!

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