BF giving me NO action during period

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Registered: 01-03-2004
BF giving me NO action during period
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Sat, 12-17-2005 - 7:15am

Hi all,

I have been in a LDR for the past year. My BF visited for a week in July - but as luck would have it, I had my period when he was here. I visited him in August, and again, bad timing meant that it was also the week I had my period. Now I am coming home to visit for Christmas (and to see him) and whatdoyaknow, I'm scheduled to have my period AGAIN during my visit!

Now, my BF finds periods a turn off. He doesn't want to have sex during 'that time of the month' nor does he want to give me oral sex, nor does he want to manually stimulate me at all. (This applies even when I've taken a shower and am using tampons). Basically it's like he doesn't want to touch me anywhere below the waist during "that time of the month".

Is this normal - do all guys have this attitude? Or is he just being overly squeamish? If so, is there anything I can do about it?

He has no problems with me giving him manual and oral stimulation when I have my period. He doesn't demand it or anything, I choose to give it. BUT - what with my appalling run of bad luck when it comes to having my period EVERY time I've seen my BF this year, it feels like I'm getting a little bit short changed. He is the one who is receiving all the pleasure, whereas I'm missing out because he "finds blood a total turn off".

When I'm home for Christmas, I'm wondering whether I should just not pleasure him until I get some action myself. I know it's not his fault I've got my period, but it's not mine either! Is there any advice on what I should do?

PS - I am not on the pill. And yes, I am aware that with the pill, you can "reschedule" periods. It's an attractive idea, but we don't see each other enough to really justify taking it.

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Avatar for katmandoo2001
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-28-2005 - 11:26am
You're absolutely right, Carla. Some things never change.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-28-2005 - 11:28am
Gee, I wonder who all those blood and guts slasher movies are made for?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-28-2005 - 11:30am
That much blood? Once again, assumptions are being made.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Wed, 12-28-2005 - 1:06pm

>>I got the image of road kill<<

ROTFL! I don't _quite_ see it that way!

You know; I love these boards. Sometimes the conversations go off on a complete tangent. I think that this is one of those times! LOL.

Yep. You're right though. It IS about different strokes for different folks and this subject is certainly no different in that respect. Some are fine with it, some aren't and others have no real opinion.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 12-28-2005 - 1:43pm

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Registered: 09-18-2002
Thu, 12-29-2005 - 2:02am
Hey, I love having sex during periods. It's fun to get bloody without having to worry about the pain and injury that generally accompany it. I have no problem giving oral either.
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Registered: 10-29-2003
Sun, 01-01-2006 - 3:37am

I can't related to your problem. But my last boyfriend, didn't have a problen, with

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