Bf has to go to bathrm in middle of sex

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Bf has to go to bathrm in middle of sex
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Mon, 04-25-2005 - 11:38am
I have a new bf who is a great lover and is very well endowed but he always does one thing which grosses me out, even though it's of course quite natural. He has tremendous staying power and if I want him to he will stay hard for 45 minutes or pretty much however long I want. However, after several minutes of intercourse he often has to pee extremely badly -- even if he has recently gone. It is just wierd because he will go and go and go -- we can have a fairly long conversation while he's like, psssssssssssssssst, in fact it sometimes takes so long that I'm considerably dried out. Then when he comes back to bed it's, like, uhhh, dripping and that's so gross, although he will usually just put it right back inside me. Any of you have bfs who have the urge to go during sex, and if so, how do they get everything drip-free quickly?

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Mon, 04-25-2005 - 11:42am
Shaking it and drying off the end works wonders. Sounds like he could have a UTI though.


Edited 4/25/2005 11:44 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Mon, 04-25-2005 - 12:22pm
well, i've heard of girls doing that due UTI which men rarely get, keyword being "rarely". have him go to his doctor and get antibiotics for starters and hopefully that will be it.
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Mon, 04-25-2005 - 12:24pm

Sorry, what's UTI? I

think he shakes it off, it just seems like there's more in there.

I've never had a guy have to go in the middle of sex before. That being said, I've never had such an intense lover before and this filled-up feeling is NOT something I'm going to let go of!

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Mon, 04-25-2005 - 12:29pm
I see. Urinary Tract Infection. I don't know, he seems really healthy, he's just a peeing machine or something. If you think something's wrong though I'll ask him to have it checked. I know he drinks a lot of water because he does a lot of endurance sports. I have noticed a couple of times that his urine is perfectly clear, which I believe is a sign of good health.
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Mon, 04-25-2005 - 3:04pm
I don't think it's THAT rare that men will get a UTI. Maybe not as often as women but they do get them and with the same symptoms.
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Mon, 04-25-2005 - 3:10pm

Drinking a lot of water does make one urinate more often, but in the middle of sex, the urethra is closed off by blood engorgement in the pelvis. So, unless he's got a sensitive or small bladder, I'm not sure why he'd need to do that.

My DH has never stopped in the middle of a long session, gotten up to pee and then come back to bed, so I'm not sure how common that is.

Ask him to empty his bladder before coming to bed but if the dripping grosses you out, just ask him to shake it until there's no more dripping and not to penetrate you until.




Edited 4/25/2005 3:11 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Mon, 04-25-2005 - 3:39pm
Makes sense. He has huge bladder it must hold a gallon but it seems to be very sensitive. We do have extremely intense sex and for a very long time (that's how I like it) so maybe just the bouncing makes it happen. I realize it's closed off and that's the problem -- he has to go very badly but when it's fully hard it is difficult for him and it wants to go straight up toward the ceiling. This has happened at least half the time we've had sex. I have asked him to shake it, and even to press it the end up against the toilet paper roll to hopefully get rid of the drips but that doesn't do it. Friday AM we woke up and had such wonderful vibes, except that when I reached out for him a couple of minutes after he'd peed, I got a handful of you-know-what. I didn't say anything to him though, you know how guys can be soooo sensitive. Anyhow, whatever, I'm not going to die. All you can say about sex is, it's always something ... ;-)
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Tue, 04-26-2005 - 8:21pm
Hi iphillippa:

 

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Tue, 04-26-2005 - 9:35pm

Don't drink anything for two hours? How often is a lovemaking session planned out like that. I know I get UTI's all the time and you don't pee a lot. You always feel like you gotta go and then nothing comes out but a drop. And they usually hurt really bad to where he wouldn't quite be in the mood for sex. I would definitely have him ask his doctor. All the water he drinks may very well have something to do with it but I've never heard of that. Of course I've never had a man go for more than a few minutes.

Kim

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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 7:08am

Hi gimmegoodadvice:

 

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