Bf loses erection w/condom on

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Registered: 08-12-2006
Bf loses erection w/condom on
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Sat, 08-12-2006 - 3:20am
Me and my bf started having sex recently. There is one small problem that's more of an annoyence than a serious problem. He keeps losing his erection with a condom on unless we're going at it continuously. If we pause for more than a couple seconds, he'll go soft and he has to pull out and let me get him back up. We know it's the condom because if he's soft and we take it off to just have more foreplay, he'll spring right back up. It's annoying having to "hurry up" to get him inside me to keep it up. I personally think he's just too wide for the condom (even though we're using magnums). I'm wondering if anyone else has had problems, and if it is the condoms, are there any wider condoms without going longer? Thank you. :)
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Sat, 08-12-2006 - 7:14am

I doubt that it's the condoms as such. It's likely to be more mental than anything especially if the relationship is relatively newish. I've always found condoms to be an annoyance and a distraction. And they don't feel as good as going bare. Combine those two things and his brain just isn't impressed with condoms and isn't interested in trying to maintain the erection unless he's getting the constant stimulation from intercourse.

He will probably get used to it with time. He may have to if you aren't going to change the type of birthcontrol and STD protection in the near future. There isn't any other choice if condoms are necessary. If he wants sex he will just have to get used to it.

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Registered: 01-11-2004
Sun, 08-13-2006 - 10:50am

Hi airmansgirl:

YOU get to RETRAIN him!
When NOT having an erection for sexual intercourse, YOU put on the condom. Keep assisting him to keep the erection with the condom; oral sex or hand job. Eventually, he should learn to maintain an erection with the condom on.

Mac

 

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Registered: 07-31-2006
Tue, 08-15-2006 - 10:10am

Hello Airmansgirl,

If your guy isn't circumsized then if you pull back the skin and put the condom on it can be very sensitive. This could be causing the problem. Try putting the condom on another way, perhaps over the foreskin of the penis. Its the nerves in the head that are getting rubbed the wrong way. There are condoms out there that can keep him hard with the type of lub on the inside. They work well.

Tbone

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Registered: 07-06-2004
Tue, 08-15-2006 - 11:50am

Maybe put some KY inside the condom tip. This help to transfer your heat to him which he probably misses, and his head can slide inside the condom giving him stimulation.

They are more expensive, but female condoms give a guy more "natural" friction and stimulation. It might help a penis that doesn't like wearing a coat.