Why can't you just believe that he was tired? Since you kept asking him, and trying to encourage him, perhaps he was just reaching for other reasons when the real reason was -- he was tired, like he said originally. I think you're over analyzing this. People have differing libidos, he had sex Friday night and in the the middle of the day Saturday. That may be enough for him in that period of time.
Perhaps he was encouraging you to masturbate so that it took the pressure off of him, and to let you know it's okay with him if you do this when he's not in the mood -- even though he is right there. Maybe he didn't want to take you up on your offer for anal sex because he didn't want to "use" you. It may have felt to him as if he would have been using you, or he didn't want that experience to be when he was tired either.
No one likes being rejected, but you won't find a person who always wants to have sex at the same exact time as you either. Sounds like he was trying to reach a compromise by encouraging you to masturbate. If you're afraid that your sex life is getting stale, then take the initiative to spice it up when he is in the mood, not as a way to encourage him to do something he's not in the mood to do. While adding spice may make him feel like having sex more often, you shouldn't feel "more" rejected if it doesn't alter his immediate mood. If you keep putting pressure on him, that's just going to be a turn off.
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Why can't you just believe that he was tired? Since you kept asking him, and trying to encourage him, perhaps he was just reaching for other reasons when the real reason was -- he was tired, like he said originally. I think you're over analyzing this. People have differing libidos, he had sex Friday night and in the the middle of the day Saturday. That may be enough for him in that period of time.
Perhaps he was encouraging you to masturbate so that it took the pressure off of him, and to let you know it's okay with him if you do this when he's not in the mood -- even though he is right there. Maybe he didn't want to take you up on your offer for anal sex because he didn't want to "use" you. It may have felt to him as if he would have been using you, or he didn't want that experience to be when he was tired either.
No one likes being rejected, but you won't find a person who always wants to have sex at the same exact time as you either. Sounds like he was trying to reach a compromise by encouraging you to masturbate. If you're afraid that your sex life is getting stale, then take the initiative to spice it up when he is in the mood, not as a way to encourage him to do something he's not in the mood to do. While adding spice may make him feel like having sex more often, you shouldn't feel "more" rejected if it doesn't alter his immediate mood. If you keep putting pressure on him, that's just going to be a turn off.
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Honey, you need to get a GRIP!
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