bf still hard after ejaculation

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Registered: 05-01-2006
bf still hard after ejaculation
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Mon, 07-31-2006 - 5:02pm
ok my male friend is much older than i am & that is the way i like my men. i have only been with 2 other guys (intercourse) & i have been with 1 other (orally & manually no intercourse) so i don't think that i am experienced enough to judge what is happening. ok here is the question: for the 1st 5 mos my male friend needed manual or oral stimulation b4 he would get hard & he had a hard time remaining hard unless i was touching his penis. but for the past month he has had no problem being hard when we 1st start & seems that he can go & go b4 he cums (i'm not complaining). i am just wondering if he may be taking viagra or something to get things moving better & longer. also he remains hard after he cums & i've seen the cum so i know that he is not faking it & he is very sensitive to the touch afterwards as the other men were after ejaculation, but is not experiencing the shrinkage that the others did & that he did in the beginning of our relationship. also he is ready for sex again the next day or two, in the beginning he could not get an erection again for at least 3 days, which he used those "down" days to concentrate on satisfying me. i don't want to ask him if he is taking something because i don't want it to stop, but i think it's strange that things are so different now. any answers would be greatly appreciated.
safari
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-31-2006 - 5:38pm
Viagra sounds like a likely possibility. How old is he?
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Registered: 02-02-2006
Mon, 07-31-2006 - 9:25pm


First question I would need to ask is how old is your partner,
And I would need to say it does sound like viagra or cialis is being used to maintain an erection for so long after climax especially for the complete turn around in actions that you are getting....maybe he was stressed, stress also can play tricks on the mind and penis.
As for sensativity, I beleive many men are effected by this and it is usually around the underside of the head of the penis.

Asoxs

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Registered: 01-16-2005
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 7:26am
I am not a medical expert but I think you maybe right that he is taking Viagra. Remaining hard after ejeculation is common with Viagra. Also if you are interested in forming a long lasting relationship with him then you need to be able to ask him anything. If he gets offended by such a question then maybe you need to rethink your relationship with him.
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Registered: 08-15-2005
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 11:16am

i am sure his doctor gave him the script for viagra. so what if he is taking it to boost his sex life and satisfy you. like the others asked how old is this man. my dh is in his fifties he has a bottle of viagra. lol no big deal. realx and enjoy.

Kate

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Registered: 12-07-2005
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 5:26pm

Why not tell him that you've noticed a difference and that it has been pleasant for you. You might ask him if there is anything different that you are doing that has caused the changes you have noted. If he says "no", then you might ask him if he has changed anything that may have led to the change. In any event to let him know that the change has been pleasurable and that you have enjoyed it is not going to hurt anything. If he says that he has been taking a scrip for ED, tell him how wonderful it makes you feel that he cares so much about you that he has done so.

I personally would have told you about this before I made the change because I am very open about my sexuality. But your guy is the way he is.

OPO,

David.

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Registered: 07-20-2006
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 6:17pm
I was originally going to say that there is a possibility that he might not be taking viagra, cialis or levitra because my boyfriend always stays hard after he comes...he can keep going after each ejaculation and he doesn't take any drug for it. Only because there has been a change in your boyfriend do I think he may be taking something like viagra. Or maybe he was on medication before like an antidepressant that interfered with his ability to get and remain hard and he went off it.
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Registered: 11-12-2005
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 9:01pm

my sweetie stays hard after he cums. Since it is a change your man may be taking viagra or another ed drug. Personally I love that my man stays hard...it is handy for those times I need just a little more time to get there :)
I would just enjoy it. He may not want to confess that he is using an E.D. drug.