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| Mon, 11-13-2006 - 10:52pm |
Hey all;
I have a problem that's freaking me out. My new guy is HUGE (about 8-9" when erect and very thick, sorry to be graphic, but you can see why I'm nervous now lol). We haven't had sex yet, but we want to, just worried about me. I've been told I'm "tight" and I usually bleed a bit during sex with small to average guys (and I haven't had sex in a year and a half now). I'm a little worried, and it's kind of a joke between us which relaxes me a bit, and he's very sweet and said he knows because of his size he knows he has to be gentle, etc, but that he's had problems with girls before because of it, so I know he's self conscious already.
I'm wondering if there's any gals out there that can give me any tips about being with a much bigger guy? Some positions so he doesn't kill me LOL? Tips on oral, anything.... I'll take any suggestions...I love all sex, and I really like him, I never thought a large penis would be an issue for me, it's so comical, this whole thing cracks me up. If I didn't have a sense of humour about this, I'd probably be crying at the thought of my vagina being destoyed :))
Thanks!
Amanda

Guess what? Your vagina won't be destroyed if you are completely aroused, relaxed and well lubricated! That means LOTS of foreplay (clitoral stimulation, either oral or manual) and since you're nervous to start with.....some added lubricant. If it hurts, then you're not aroused completely, and you go back to foreplay.
As big as he might be, he's not as big as a baby, and someday, a baby will pass thru your vagina, and it won't be destroyed. As long as you're properly aroused and lubricated, you will be able to stretch enough to accomodate him.
Thanks dakine!
Well I know it won't be "destroyed" thats just kind of a joke, and I know about the lube and stuff (I usually don't need any but I think it'll make it easier, and more fun!).
I know a baby can come out of there, but that's totally different...the body goes thru a bunch of changes to expell the baby and well...this is not something my body has 9 months to physiologically prepare for :)) LMAO
I'll remember the "go back to foreplay" if it's not working...that's a good idea, rather than ending up frusterated and stuff.
Any ideas on positions?
Thanks!
Amanda
I happily have the same problem that you have, but it's a nice problem to have. (Better than the opposite, where the guy is just way too small.)
First of all, get plenty of foreplay. I arouse easily, and get quite wet, which is really all that you need. Your body should be able to accommodate him, if you're wet and ready. You may want to make sure that HE is also wet, too! Why spend money on some fancy lube when you've got a mouth? :) Just before he's ready to enter, slide your mouth up and down his shaft, that should do the trick.
Then, just have him take it slow and easy until you discover exactly how deep he can go without hurting you. He's big, and he's been with other women, so he should be experienced enough to know that he can't just go "all in" with no preparation.
My guy is just over 8", and our best position is with me on top. That way, I can control how deep he goes, plus the energeticness (is that a word?) of the thrusting. Fortunately, I'm able to take his full length...he's been with women who can't. And it's possible that you may not be able to take your new guy's full length. Just let him know when he's gone too deep--he'll soon learn how to control it.