B/F won't stimulate me, HELP PLZ!!!
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| Mon, 01-29-2007 - 2:17am |
Hello everyone,
I am a 19 year old female, my b/f and I have been together for 6 years now. When we first started having sex, it was great, we had no problem stimulating each other. Now however, my b/f refuses to stimulate me to get me aroused and wet. He always appears to want to please me but then cant really follow through. I am usually always on top, which is fine with me. My b/f will just lye there and expect to be pleased. He won't caress me or touch me at all, it seems he just wants me to get on and please him. This situation prevents me from getting wet and he'll get a little frusterated. He'll say things such as just touching your vagina to my penis should get you wet, does anyone think this is true? I know for myself I like to be touched and kissed and well just in some way stimulated before sex, am I asking too much?, and if not how do I get my b/f to stimulate me?
Please help this has been going on for months and I now dread having to have sex and I find myself bored:(

You were children when you got together, you knew nothing about sex, and you still don't. I think you know a little more than he does.....but not enough. He thinks that touching your vagina with his penis is all he needs to do? He's WAY wrong. Does he (or you) know what and where your clitoris is? THAT is what needs stimulation, and NOT with his penis....with his hands or mouth! He also has the idea that it's all about him, and it's not. He's either selfish, lazy, or ignorant, or all three.
Here's something you can both study to learn about female sexual response: www.the-clitoris.com He has LOTS to learn about women, and maybe you do too. Look at it together and discuss it with each other. There is lots more to sex than him sticking his penis in you and "getting off"!
If he isn't concerned about your pleasure, then of course, you're frustrated and bored. Talking to him doesn't seem to help, so maybe your relationship has run it's course. If you've never been with another man, then you have no idea what good sex is like, and maybe it's time for you to learn. If he's selfish this way, or won't listen to you, then the rest of your relationship is probably the same, with him calling the shots. That's not what a relationship is supposed to be like, and just because you've been with him so long doesn't mean that you have to STAY with him for the rest of your life.
Try talking to him, and if that doesn't work.....maybe it's time to move on and find a man who cares about a woman in every way, including sexually.