bikini hair- embarrassing question?

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Registered: 01-24-2006
bikini hair- embarrassing question?
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Tue, 01-24-2006 - 6:52pm
I have a weird question. A couple months ago, before I had Brazilian laser surgery done on my bikini line (awesome, by the way!!), I was seeing a guy for a couple weeks and we were often intimate. I shaved my bikini line well, but was pretty "bushy" down there and a bit naive about how most girls maintain that area. He commented one night while giving a hand job, "Have you considered trimming?", and I was embarrassed cause I hadn't ever thought of it. We aren't seeing each other any more, do you think this was a major turn-off? I know some guys are really picky. Any thoughts would be appreciated!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 7:12pm

Maybe it was a turnoff to HIM, maybe not...but he's only one guy. Some guys are pickier about that than others but ultimately, it's YOUR body hair and YOUR choice to shave it off, trim it or braid it into a ponytail, if you choose.

Any guy who's in love with you will accept your pubic hair however you choose to wear it. And if you decide to trim it to please a lover, than that's your choice as well. Don't worry about it.

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 9:18pm

Wait a minute, you want to know what this guy( and others) maybe thought, and you've ALREADY had Brazilian laser surgery done on your bikini line. It sounds like you have already made your decision.

BTW, if he commented during a "hand job", this has nothing to do with the hair on your bikini line, which is far away from your labial lips. I love my wife's pubic hair and would not want her to shave, but we do digital a lot and it does make her more comfortable if we trim the area right around her labial lips with electric clippers about once a month.

taoist

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 10:05pm
As a male, I find a woman with natual or heavy pubic hair errotic, sexual, a tremendous turn on, a thousand times more arrousing than a woman who is hairless.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 11:34pm
As you can see by just the few answers you've gotten so far, every guy likes things different. Some like a lot of hair, some don't like it. It's YOUR body, and you can do whatever you want to do with it. You might remove it all, and meet a guy who LIKES women to look like adult women.
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Registered: 12-24-2005
Wed, 01-25-2006 - 2:01am

Brazilian, ey? Hmmm... (squinting a curious eye)

What makes Brazilian more awesome than the other methods (which I know nothing about as well, other than hearing about something wax-related a couple times)?

Just to be a little shallow here, I prefer hair down there on a woman, rather than shaven. And completely bare? I don't know, it reminds me of, like, a Martian or something. Just seems unnatural to me. But, like I said, that's just my personal preference.

Because when it comes 'down' to it, it's what YOU like down there that matters. I'm more turned-on by a woman who's confident and comfortable with herself, regardless, than a woman with the nicest 'hairstyle.'

I think it's all in the 'tude!

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E

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Registered: 01-24-2006
Wed, 01-25-2006 - 9:40am
Thanks for all thoughts... interesting. In response to some questions, Brazilian is removing all hair from the pubic area, & can be done via shaving, waxing, or laser removal. Laser is "awesome" b/c it is permanent after a few treatments. I'd been wanting to do this for a while and the appointment wasn't until after things with this guy fizzled out. I find most guys like it, but am glad to hear everyone's different, and yeah a woman's confidence should be more important than her partner's picky preferences. We just have small self-esteems sometimes and need to know we're desired.
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Wed, 01-25-2006 - 11:35pm
i hear ya. Don't shave it unless YOU want it. Today my boyfriend made fun of my arm hair. And it's definitely not more than usual. He is just s psycho who shaves all his hair off(he's a cyclist). I am NOT shaving my arm hair, thank you very much!
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 01-26-2006 - 3:39pm
justmy, why can't my boyfriend think like you?! he likes it completely hairless. yay for anal retentive upkeep...LOL
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Registered: 03-02-2005
Wed, 02-01-2006 - 10:35pm

I'd like to hear more about this laser hair removal...

I shave down there, but my skin is so sensitive, I always end up with shave bumps, and I'm worried it might be mistaken for something like Herpes. Which, needless to say, would not be good.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 02-02-2006 - 12:08am

I think Kat summed it up pretty well. Obviously THIS guy preferred to have his women trim, but every guy is different.

>>I was embarrassed cause I hadn't ever thought of it. <<
Nah, no reason to be embarrassed about it. It's just hair. It's no more embarrassing and not much different than having a guy say "Hey, have you considered wearing your hair (head hair that is!) in this style?"

Personally I like completely bare in theory only. The skin-on-skin contact does feel better and I love the view especially during oral sex. But in practice the stubble comes back in in a matter of hours, making the maintenance terribly time consuming. From a practical point of view trimmed short and shaved along the edges of the labia is much easier and still very sexy in my opinion.

Do what you want. I'd think twice about getting permanent laser hair removal all over if I were you though.

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