Birth Control vs. Condom
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Birth Control vs. Condom
| Mon, 10-24-2005 - 7:11pm |
Okay I have another question, although I am not ready to have intercourse yet, I have begun to think about when I am ready and what precautions I will take. My bf is VERY against condoms. He says that it takes a lot out of the experience for him. When we do start having intercourse he has asked that I take Birth Control Pills. My question is as follows, since BCP protects against pregnancy and nothing else, should I be worried about having unprotected sex against STD's, and all other sexually transmitted diseases even if I know exactly who his previous sexual partners were? Obviously his sleeping with those other girls made it so he was getting anything anyone else THEY had ever slept with had, so what do I do?
Also, a side question, to any men who want to answer this (or women who know from their men), how significant is the with vs. without a condom experience? Isn't dealing with BCP such a bigger hassel? Is it worth it?
Also, a side question, to any men who want to answer this (or women who know from their men), how significant is the with vs. without a condom experience? Isn't dealing with BCP such a bigger hassel? Is it worth it?

If your b/f has been sexually active with other women, he should be tested for STDs and then tested again in 6 months.
You should both be tested and both of you must commit to one another if you are "clean". Otherwise, you risk (both) infecting the other if you have any other partners who don't use condoms.
As far as sensation and experience, I HATED condoms. I liken it to petting a cat with rubber gloves on. However, if I/C is not long enough, they can prolong it.
Good luck.
How about birth control AND condom? As someone else mentioned, they are both birth control. Female birth control is more effective, and isn't that much of a "hassle" when you think about how much "hassle" an unwanted pregnancy would be. There are many other kinds of b/c besides just the pill.
Lots of men don't like condoms. They say it's like taking a bath with a raincoat, and other things like that, and I can understand it must dull the sensations some. BUT, unless they've been tested, there is no way you can know whether or not they have any one of many STD's. Most of them give men NO symptoms. There are no symptoms from HIV! You can't tell by looking, only by testing. If he does't like them, then he's had sex with other women without a condom, and it's very possible that he could be carrying some kind of virus or bacteria that could infect you. He could give you some things that would give YOU no symptoms, and you wouldn't know you had them until you had a checkup with bloodwork. Some are cureable, but many are NOT! Until he's been tested, your "saying" should be "no glove, no love"!
Congratulations for "thinking" about these things in advance, because it's YOUR body, and your health, and your life. If he wants to be with you badly enough, he WILL use condoms until he can prove by testing that he has no diseases or infections that he can spread to you. If he can't do that for you, then his motives are purely selfish.
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I disagree with you. No one is 100% free of STD risk whether you are married or single. Many wives have contracted diseases from unfaithful husbands. I'm not saying your husband is unfaithful but all it takes is one time of unprotected sex with an infected partner. Abstinence is the only way to be 100% risk free of STD's since we know you can still get STD's with condom use.
As for him having been sexually active before, I never even THOUGHT to ask what type of protection they used then! I will definitely have to do that now! As for being tested, I will ask for that now too!
Also, thanks to everyone who gave input into whether or not condoms makes the experience any different. It's good to know that its not only my guy who doesn't like to wear them!