Bisexuality in women

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Bisexuality in women
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Mon, 06-26-2006 - 7:58am

I have heard that many women are bisexual, or at least bi-curious...and that bisexuality has even become trendy is women these days.

I have a few close female friends, and most (but not all) admit that they either have slept with another woman in the past ("I was curious and wanted to experiment"), or would do so in the right situation.

These women that I spoke to insisted that they were not lesbian, or even really bisexual at all (they would never date or have a serious relationship with another woman)...just that they appreciated feminine beauty and were not against the idea of being with a female. One even said that she was interested in female strip clubs and preferred girl-on-girl porn to man/woman porn.

I was a little surprised (and admittedly a little turned-on! lol) when I first realized this. I have known most of these women for years, and they have always presented themselves as heterosexual (many have boyfriends). As a straight guy, I would never sleep with another man no matter how drunk or curious I was (I have nothing against this...I'm just not attracted to men sexually). I'm sure most of my male friends feel the same.

I would love to hear your opinions on this.

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Mon, 06-26-2006 - 9:04am

I don't feel women (or men) who can get turned on by the same sex, have experimented with the same sex, can appreciate the same sex sexually


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Mon, 06-26-2006 - 9:42am
i've also known several straight men that had encounters with other men out of curiousity. i had a few encounters in college with women for the same reason. I think the stigma of men being with men is stronger than women being with women, that's why more men won't even let their mind go there (kinda like the incest taboo). being with the same sex made me understand certain things that i couldn't really appreciate before -- like why boobs are so great and in general the female vibe that guys get from being with a woman. but i also learned that i really need that male-female energy/dynamic. i guess that's why they call it 'bi-curious'.
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Mon, 06-26-2006 - 5:15pm
No "Bicuriousity" here. I am and have always been a straight woman. Never experimented, never felt tempted to experiment. I think those women who have experimented may be looking for something from a female that they can't get from a male partner. JMHO.
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Mon, 06-26-2006 - 8:05pm

I'm sure that it's trendy these days. There is an enormous amount of porn that caters to the (primarily male) fantasy of girl-on-girl sex. Most men are turned on by it and would be more than happy to have it happen in their sex lives. If you've got half the population saying that something is a real turn-on and you see a *lot* of it in the media, and society generally being accepting of it, wouldn't you be tempted to try something or maybe just admit to being curious about it?

Flip the genders and think about how you would feel if all women were really turned on by homosexual sex, if it wasn't Brittany and Madonna kissing instead it was Justin and Guy, the movie "Wild Things" was hottest when the guys got wet together in the pool, and quite a few of your male friends were interested in what it would be like to kiss a guy. Of course you'd wonder what it was like to be with another guy even if you were perfectly straight....

Something to think about: Most women that are lesbians and in lesbian relationships don't want a guy in there. A lesbian relationship is usually about love, not just sex. Just like any heterosexual relationship. Most guys, even the ones that love the idea of girls on girls, wouldn't like the *reality* of a lesbian relationship.

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Mon, 06-26-2006 - 8:23pm

I have not one iota of bi-sexuality within me. I have never had a fantasy or a second of sexual thought towards any woman (even if I think a woman is sexy and beautiful). Women do not arouse me sexually - not in the least.

I have two daughters who are 21 and 17. They have both told me that it's the "in" thing and that most of these girls do it mainly because they know that it turns guys on and not because they are truly bi-sexual or even bi-curious -- it's all an act.

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Mon, 06-26-2006 - 9:05pm

I never was the least bit tempted to try it though. Why try something simply because others are doing it....if you feel no attraction, much less curiosity about it?

My natural instinct has always been toward men, so why experiment with a woman and have to force it?

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Tue, 06-27-2006 - 2:09am
i wasn't doing it to please a guy. i think i just wanted to better understand myself and at a young age male sexuality sometimes overshadows female sexuality so it is easier to explore that with another woman.