BJ Situation
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| Fri, 06-08-2007 - 4:57pm |
I know, I've been asking a lot of questions lately. I really like this guy, and I'm trying to make sure I don't mess up.
So, I have written in before and stated that we had some slight issues because of his being in remission for leukemia. Taking some advice from here, I thought I would discuss with him his thoughts on whether I could give him a blow job. I said it nicer then that though.
His response was a bit weird for me. He said straight out he has only cum from a BJ one time in his life when he was 16. It just isn't his thing. He said he probably would only enjoy it if I was the best BJ giver out there.
Well, to be honest, I don't really think I am, but I do like to do it. I do like to make men happy. And usually, most guys I've dated, have pretty much been all for the BJ.
So, trying to interpret his response, I'm guessing he doesn't really want one, and I should just leave it alone? But I do want to touch him!!!

You said you can't have intercourse with him because of the chemo. If that's the case, then I'm sure you shouldn't have that in your mouth, either! I've never heard of the prohibition of sex because of chemo, but we learn something new every day!
I don't think you should be doing it, but you also might want to inform your b/f, whenever you get the go-ahead......that for a guy to enjoy oral sex, he doesn't HAVE to finish from it.....it feels good anyway. And if he can't finish, then he can finish himself, or you can do it for him. And, if he's only had it happen once, how would he know if you were the best fellatist anyway?
I'm wondering if this guy is just not that into sex, and the chemo story is even true! I can't see how anything in his system can harm you if he uses a condom! It doesn't touch you with a condom!
Hey guys -
Thanks for the responses. I have done some research. He says he has cytotoxicity. I think that he really is just worried about me and the side affects of it on me. Maybe he is being too careful, but I would rather have him be that way then not.
I do admit, his sex drive in general is not as high as others. I believe he gets run down very fast and I think he fears his performance.
I do touch him. Often. And I think he appreciates that. I just don't touch him down there and we were discussing it. I think again he has performance anxiety and maybe just a slight issue with his size??
I'm really just going to go with the flow on this one. I will tell him that I just want to touch him and if he is uncomfortable with it, I won't. No BJs until he is all clean.
Thanks