bj/hj

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Registered: 10-15-2004
bj/hj
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Fri, 05-13-2005 - 9:53pm

Hello everyone. I have a question I was hoping someone could answer. I know that every man is different but generally speaking how much pressure should be given with a hand job and how much, sorry lack of a better word, "suction" is good for a blow job? Thanks in advance for any tips!

Ashley

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: itink04
Fri, 05-13-2005 - 10:04pm

There really is no general answer since as you said, all guys are different and enjoy it differently and the same guy might not want it the same way every time.


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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: itink04
Fri, 05-13-2005 - 11:40pm

There is no "in general" when it comes to what a man likes. It can vary from one end of the spectrum to the other. Some men like gentle and slow, some men like hard and fast. Most men don't want to feel teeth, some like to feel teeth.

If you're with 100 different men, you'll have to ask each one of them what they like. And, they'll be very happy to tell you.

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Registered: 05-14-2005
In reply to: itink04
Sat, 05-14-2005 - 3:06pm
I would have to say that it all depends on your man. Too much friction can desensitize. All you have to do is ask him when you are in the act.
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Registered: 05-01-2003
In reply to: itink04
Sat, 05-14-2005 - 3:59pm
I have a rule of thumb that when doing a HJ you can't go too far wrong starting gently, if he wants it to be firmer and more aggressive your partner will tell you. When I am doing a BJ I tend to experiment with suction until I get the sort of affirmation that I want which tells me my partner is enjoying it. Again, my rule of thumb is to begin soft and work forward from there. Elaine
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Registered: 02-26-2001
In reply to: itink04
Sat, 05-14-2005 - 7:59pm
I will say, speaking as a man who has experienced it, if you end up giving him a hickey on the end of his penis, then you're probably sucking too hard. Anything up to that is better than not sucking at all (I know about that too).