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Tue, 06-27-2006 - 5:58pm
im really confused!! im with this guy now whos a lot more experienced then me! and im new to this, im 19 and i just started giving blowjobs and stuff like that. my problem is i dont know if im doing it good, what are some good blow job tips that will make any man extremely pumped?
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In reply to: sarahhbethh
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 6:39pm

An orgasm is a good indication that you're doing a great job already. So, if he's ejaculating and orgasming, then don't worry about it.

And even if he isn't, it still doesn't mean that he's not enjoying himself. Few men will turn down fellatio, whether it's to orgasm or not.

IF he's happy and sleepy afterwards, then you're doing a good job. Don't worry about it. It's a learning process and every man is different. So, what works for mine, may not for yours. Ask him what you could do better.

And BTW, unless he's GIVEN a BJ before, he's not experienced in THAT way.

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In reply to: sarahhbethh
Wed, 06-28-2006 - 10:32am

Sarah, there is nothing that tricky about oral sex. There's an old saying, there's good oral sex, and there's better oral sex. Unless you hurt him in some way, it's good. He's enjoying it. Some men can't even finish from oral sex. They're all different.

As far as special tricks, every man is different. They all have their favorite things. Some men like it faster, some like it slower. Most men live in fear of "teeth", but some men actually like to feel a little "tooth".

Learn now that if you're going to be in a sexual relationship with someone, then you need to be able to talk about it. In this case, you have to ask him if there's something he'd like you to do, or not do. That is how you become "experienced"! By asking, and doing it.

And whatever you do for him, that doesn't mean that the next guy will want that same thing. You have to ask him what HE wants and likes! Every man is different, what this guy likes, the next guy might hate.

If you want to make him happy (and I'm sure you are already) then ask him what he likes.

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Registered: 07-05-2006
In reply to: sarahhbethh
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 1:07pm
As a guy...I can say any oral is enjoyable and feels good. Dont stress on the cumming when giving oral. I might cumm half the time...and I really have to focus...it just feel great. One tip that I enjoy, stroke his penis with your hand while sucking on his head...it helps speed up the process of orgasm...
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In reply to: sarahhbethh
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 2:06pm

Hi Sarah,

The best way to find out what your new guy likes is to just ask. Try something with his penis....ask him if he likes it. Trust me, you might feel weird about that, but he will like it. Every guy is different so I can't say what he will or will not enjoy. But, if this helps, I can tell you some of the things I do to my boyfriend that he seems to enjoy. He likes when I rub up and down the shaft while sucking on the head. Also, once in a while I will be sucking on the whole penis and when I get to the head I will VERY carefully and softly rub my teeth from the bottom of the head to the top. Sometimes I will lick from the bottom of the shaft to the tip of the head, or slowly kiss from the bottom up to the top. Also, my boyfriend absolutely LOVES when I look up at him while I'm giving him head. I don't do it often though because I know it drives him wild! hehe. Wearing sexy lingerie while doing it works too

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In reply to: sarahhbethh
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 3:31pm

Speaking as a guy, short of biting him there's no such thing as a bad bj.

Things that will make it great vs. merely good are changing pace so he lasts longer, having fun with it vs. an if-you-insist attitude, and lots of eye contact, which is a major turnon for me at least. It says "See how naughty I'm being" and "I want to watch you cum".