Black and White Dating.....

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Registered: 06-25-2007
Black and White Dating.....
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:53pm

Black and White Dating.....



  • There should be more of it
  • It is fine the way it is
  • there is too much of it
  • I think there should be no B and W dating
  • I'm still thinking about this issue


You will be able to change your vote.


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Registered: 06-25-2007
Sun, 08-26-2007 - 9:42pm
Can you suggest any reasons why people who are against B and W dating are afraid to post a comment?
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 08-26-2007 - 10:14pm
Maybe you're looking in the wrong place.
Maybe the people here aren't against it.

Maybe this board would provide better feedback.


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Registered: 12-12-2006
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 12:41am
Maybe no one here IS against it.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 3:14am

Wrong questions. Reminds me of the question as to whether or not the glass is half-empty or half-full. No place to answer, "The glass is the wrong size!"

In this case, I see that about 1/3 of the respondents had basically voted to say they didn't think Black and White should date.

My response is that I see too often that interracial dating is done for racial reasons. I am neither Black nor White and I have run into many instances of women that wanted me because I wasn't White. I came to realize after many years of marriage (and a divorce) that even my wife was that way. She liked me in part because I was dark enough to be a stab at her father, but not dark enough to be embarrassing to her.

During the divorce, racial taunts were thrown at me and my family. After well over 20 years of marriage and 4 kids.

Anyway, my point is that I don't like racism. Dating someone of a different race can be just as racist as being against interracial dating. It's just a manifestation of a different aspect of racism.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 7:12am
Welcome to the board lizarddance. Thanks for sharing your experience.


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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 7:39am

There's no reason anyone would be afraid to post a comment here.

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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 8:00am

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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 12:08pm
Thanks for the welcome. But you're about 6 or 7 years too late.
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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 12:24pm

This is a can of worms that I shouldn't be opening. I don't know what the percentages are, whether it is "majority" or not. I do know that most people justify their behavior and attitude in racial matters and tell me that they aren't, "racist, but, . . ." I run into this over and over.

My ex's family would be an example. They also did interracial and interfaith relationships, but were blind to their reasons behind it and seemed to believe that because they did this, that meant that they did not have that disease of racism.

I believe in interracial relationships. Not just that they should be allowed, but that they should be encouraged. There are so many different good qualities that come from them and so many bad qualities that they can remove that I don't want to even attempt a discussion here.

But, I also think that we need to be able to look inside ourselves and see what our deep feelings are about things. My ex had to face that in a meeting that focused on our racial feelings and could not handle what she saw inside. I think she never again dealt with it.

None of which really has much to do with this topic.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 1:02pm

Sorry about that. I had never seen you post here since I've been CL (April), and the search feature didn't return any posts for you over the past year. Sometimes, there are glitches in the search.

Whether you've been around a lot, or just a little, it's still nice to have you here :-)



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