Blindfold him?

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Registered: 11-21-2004
Blindfold him?
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Wed, 11-24-2004 - 10:57pm

Okay this may sound strange to you guys but I was thinking. I want to go down on my bf but I'm kind of shy to. I don't know why but thinking about him watching me do it creeps my out for some reason. I'd be more confident if he wasn't watching. So I was thinking...what if I blindfold him and go down on him?

Does that seem weird?

The only thing is what happens if he takes it off..lol ...I don't wanna get pissed at him but I really don't feel comfortable with him watching...I'd get shy :o( lol

What do you guys think

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: poptart_19
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 12:02am

A big part of a man's pleasure is watching you do it. If you're too shy to do it, then probably you shouldn't do it. There's really no room for shyness in a sexual relationship, so maybe you're just not ready for this.

If you ask to blindfold him, he'll want to know why. So, go ahead and ask, and see what his reaction is. It's really up to him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2004
In reply to: poptart_19
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 12:36am
I'm shy about everything. I was shy about letting him see my boobs lol. I'm shy until my partner meets me halfway, then I begin to feel more confortable. That's the way I've always been about everything. Anyways, he thinks its hot lol. But I'm just worried because I don't want to NOT be ready..you know?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: poptart_19
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 9:12am

You would have to ask him first if he wants to be blindfolded, he might not like the idea of a blindfold.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: poptart_19
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 10:23am

Children are "shy"......adults are "insecure". If you really want to do it, then you're "ready". If you can't do it, then you're NOT ready. I'm not sure what you mean about him meeting you halfway.....what does that mean? All he can do here is say YES, I want you to do it. About all he can do is take his clothes off, and let it all hang out.

There's nothing complicated about oral sex. It's not hard, and it's almost impossible to do it wrong, unless you hurt him. Also, you have to ask him how he likes it done....because every guy likes different things.

It's like anything else in life. If you want to do it, you might be nervous about it, but unless you decide that you WILL do it, then it will never happen.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2004
In reply to: poptart_19
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 3:36pm

What exactly is it that creeps you out about the thought of him watching you? You have both seen each other in all your glory, you've been sexual for quite a while now, what is there to be shy about?

I'm not sure what it is. I read a couple things once..saying how girls are afraid their men will lose respect for them when they go down on them etc. And I read that when girls don't give oral their guys look elsewhere for it. I couldn't believe what I was reading I completely disagreed. I haven't gone down on my bf but we've done just about everything else there is to do... and he still treats me the same as he did before we had sex. So I'm not afraid or anything like that. My bfs got a good head on his shoulders and he controls himself perhaps better than I do and I completely trust that he wouldn't go looking elsewhere for oral sex.

But the whole thing is just so discouraging. I kind of think that it's a control thing. I think that if I DON'T do it...he hasn't got it "all" so it keeps him in check about my stance and things I will and will not do. I want to do it, I want him to do it to me, but for some reason..when push comes to shove I shy away from it.

I know guys are visual and I know my bf would want to see lol but I just see myself getting nervous and shy and stopping if he tried to watch. We've done other stuff before which is worse than this but for some reason I'm uncomfortable. I wanna get over it because I'm really curious about how oral feels, for me and to see him get it. I just don't know how to stop with these ideas of how its negative.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: poptart_19
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 4:06pm

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Oral or any kind of sexual act has nothing to do with one partner controlling another.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: poptart_19
Fri, 11-26-2004 - 9:42am

One thing about people is that we are all different. We're all as different internally as we are externally. Socialization PUSHES us to conform to the more popular temperments. Shyness may be very much a part of a person's make-up, which I have always suspected. I have one child who is shyer than the other. Their personalities were apparent from birth.

Some info about it:
http://www.scienceblog.com/community/article1764.html

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-27-2004
In reply to: poptart_19
Sat, 11-27-2004 - 7:19pm
Well everyone else seems to think it's a bad idea to blindfold him, I know my boyfriend loves it when I blindfold him... Not knowing exactly what a person is going to do next is a huge turn on. He might agree more readily if you suggest it as a sort of game. Blindfold him and tell him he has to guess what you're going to do next. Start kissing him around his neck and slowly work your way downward, you'll know if he's liking what you're doing!
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-03-2004
In reply to: poptart_19
Sat, 11-27-2004 - 9:18pm

The blindfold can be fun and I think he will probably enjoy, but I can almost bet he finds it more of a turn on to watch you as most guys do, there is something very erotic and extremely sexy about watching a woman go down on you.

Men are visual creatures, they love to watch, hopefully you can overcome this feeling you have about him watching.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: poptart_19
Sun, 11-28-2004 - 10:46am
I don't think it's that many people think it's a bad idea to blindfold him, there are a lot of people who blindfold their partners to add excitement, something different, etc. to their sex life.

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