blow jobs tips?

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Registered: 09-01-2005
blow jobs tips?
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Tue, 09-13-2005 - 9:38pm
My boyfriend loves blow jobs, as I said in the post before, but has never cummed from one. He says he likes them better than handjobs and we are not having sex. I need to learn something to do that we make him cum so I won't have to finish it off with a hand job or he won't go soft in the middle. Any ideas?
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Registered: 09-01-2005
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 10:07pm
talk to him ask him what he like the most...while you are doing it tell him to moan or tell you to keep doing what you are doing...use your hands and your mouth at the same time. and keep it wet i usually do this by spitting not nasty but...almost let it run out of your mouth. once you find what he likes just continue doing it...tell him to talk to you while you are doing it...and play with his balls...have fun relax and make sure you are comfortable while doing this!!hope this helps a little.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 11:29pm

Yes, you ARE having sex! Oral sex is sex! Any kind of bodily contact with his penis or your vulva is sex! Maybe you're not having intercourse, but you are having sex.

If he's got a problem finishing during oral sex, that's because HE has a problem. He's the one in charge of that, and there's nothing you can do about it. He is nervous, or uncomfortable...and that's what's holding him back. Ask him if there's some kind of movement that he likes.....faster, slower, etc. You can try your best, but if he can't he can't, and he's got to overcome whatever it is. There are many men who can't or don't finish from oral sex. He's one of them, at least for now.

You can't "make" him finish, any more than he can "make" you have an orgasm.

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Registered: 09-14-2005
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 12:09am
like my name i am the new girl at all these things and my boyfriend thinks i am doing well. my advice to you is play with his member first while you are doing that make out a bit. also try licking this lips, ears, neck and anywhere else. then work your way down to his penis. after playing with it so long he may cum faster. like the guys say lick it like your licking ice cream. it works for me.
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Wed, 09-14-2005 - 2:23am

He's the one with the penis, so you need to ask HIM how he likes it stimulated. Men are as different in their preferences as we are. What my Dh likes a lot, your BF may not. And as Dakine said, oral sex IS sex.

But if you are having to finish him with manual stimulation or he goes soft, then he obviously responds to manual better. Many men do. Some men just can't orgasm from oral stimulation.

BTW, I hope he is offering reciprocation for your efforts.




Edited 9/14/2005 2:28 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Wed, 09-14-2005 - 6:41am

You cannot make him cum, an orgasm is up to the person having it whether it's him having it or you.


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Registered: 09-15-2005
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 7:22am

My bf is the same: he won't come because he thinks its not nice on me, so he holds it back. But one time he was relaxed and it happened. So you just need to make sure he's relaxed and that he isn't nervous (don't ask him if he's nervous, cause that'll just make him nervous...the male psyche....). But talking to him about it will give you good insight as to why he doesn't come.

Hope this helps