Blushing here

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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 6:59pm

Having not been in a sexual relationship for some time I'm a bit flustered. I've been seeing someone now for about a year. Recently he stated our sex life could be more exciting. He did have some suggestions to go with this IE: golden showers, using my tongue in his anal area and anal sex.
My question is this, Are those things considered in the "normal" realm of sexual behaviors these days?
Have to admit it would be new to me. I also consider them slightly degrading to women. Why I think that I'm clueless.
Would like to know what others think.

Joy

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: joy_2_day
Fri, 01-28-2005 - 7:47pm

If you feel they are degrading, then they are not for you.


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In reply to: joy_2_day
Fri, 01-28-2005 - 7:55pm

What's a golden shower??

AND

example: I used to think that a woman giving oral sex was degrading. But it was because I was in high school and well, sex is different for teens in high school. Girls who gave 'head' were considered dirty. I then realised it's all about who you're with and what you both are comfortable with.

I say, try anything you're curious about atleast once: who knows you may like it. But if something is really making you that uncomfortable, it's not for you.

-sammy

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: joy_2_day
Fri, 01-28-2005 - 8:09pm
A Golden Shower is getting pee'd on.

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Registered: 09-02-2004
In reply to: joy_2_day
Fri, 01-28-2005 - 8:15pm

Well, I agree - whatever is degrading to you is degrading to you, and if he is doing something specifically TO degrade you, well then that is degrading as well. Golden showers (peeing on someone for sexual pleasure to answer Sammy's question) are perceived that way, but the people that like it I think are submissive, and like that aspect of it, oftentimes even more than the dominant person in the scenario does. Like Tish, that ain't NEVER gonna happen, and I think in the realm of these boards, even the Taboo board, golden showers are definitely not norm. Anal play is much more common, and certainly not degrading in and of itself.

Ultimately, it's up to you to decide how you feel about it, and why he wants those specific ones. I would definitely encourage you to communicate openly, and to explore what YOU would like as well.

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Registered: 11-18-2004
In reply to: joy_2_day
Fri, 01-28-2005 - 8:17pm

kinda wishing i didn't ask about that one..... I don't get it. How is that sexual? It's piss. It smells. I don't get this one.... so confused......

-sammy

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In reply to: joy_2_day
Fri, 01-28-2005 - 8:47pm

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Registered: 09-20-2004
In reply to: joy_2_day
Fri, 01-28-2005 - 9:14pm

Well I don't know if I'm being brave or foolish on this one stepping into this ring

Firstly I never used to and still don't get the golden shower thing, But it is so intense seeing the woman you love doing something normally so private and intimate taking a pee if she was cought short etc.

Secondly The first time my love let go it was awesome.

I had been giving her oral sex for a wee while, and gudging by her reactions aural ,breathing ,back arched etc (sure you girls know better than me) she starts trying to push my head away, but I hang on for dear life and she totally loose's it and cum's so strong she wet's herself, I can still visualise the contraction's ripping through her body out of her control, she still says that that first 'golden O' was one of the best she has had- visually for me too.

It transpired that she had felt these sensations build before and had always pushed me away scared to go with them. Now we just put a few towels under her sweet ass and get down to buisness and I've not been drowned yet, the only draw back for me anyway is that she's usually so sensetive afterward's that I have to wait on her calming down.

cheers Jacobiteone

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: joy_2_day
Fri, 01-28-2005 - 9:45pm
Ahhh.....that sounds like

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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: joy_2_day
Sat, 01-29-2005 - 2:07am

"Normal" is as "normal" does. For some people, those things are normal. They're certainly not ABnormal. But if they're things you're uncomfortable with, or things that you don't want to do.....then for you they aren't normal. And you have the right to say so, and to say that those are things you don't want to do.

There are plenty of ways to "spice things up"......different positions, different places...etc. Tell him to come up with some other suggestions, because you don't like the choices he's given you.

One thing that HAS changed over the years is that women realize that they have rights, and they shouldn't do anything they don't want to do. If their partner has respect for them, they accept that, and stop asking for it. If he bugs you about it, then he doesn't have much respect for you or your feelings.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: joy_2_day
Sat, 01-29-2005 - 2:17am
I agree with Tish.....that's NOT golden showers.....it's FE. Golden showers is literally standing above a person, and urinating on them. Sounds pretty gross, and pretty messy to me......but different strokes for different folks.

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