Booty call to boyfriend

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Registered: 12-07-2006
Booty call to boyfriend
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Tue, 12-12-2006 - 4:40pm
I have a love/hate relationship the late night booty call. It happens every Thursday night. He calls, asks what I am up to and then comes on over for a late night hook-up. It is really hard for me to just hook-up though, because I really like him. He is a great guy but has definitely insinuated that he wants to keep it at the hooking up level. Does anyone have any advice on how to turn a bootycall into something more? I did find an article on www.savvymiss.com that was some help. Here's the link: http://www.savvymiss.com/love-advice/dating-tips/dating-team-archive/article/booty-call-to-girlfriend-468.html
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 12:16am

He told you he wants to keep it a booty call and nothing more. YOU can't change it, and he doesn't want to change it.

If you don't like being a booty call.....then say no when he calls. It's never going to be anything else. He's not your b/f, he's a FWB, and that's all he wants to be.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 5:52pm

In my experience it is virtually impossible to turn a booty call into something more. If the guy was so in love with you that he wanted something more then it would already be happening. If it's just a booty call then he has made that decision in his mind - "She's alright to have sex with, but I don't want to get emotionally involved with this woman because I do not have feelings of love for her".

And as we all know, you can't make yourself love someone and he has made it very clear in words and in actions that he neither wants to love you or feels love for you. You will simply have to say "No" when he calls.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 12-15-2006 - 9:59am

You can't!


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Registered: 12-17-2006
Sun, 12-17-2006 - 7:06am
I went threw this and kept it up for a year hoping he would want to turn it into something serious one day because I was in love with him. Resulted in me having a very late reality check seeing him with another girl and indeed him acting like we were just "friends". I would end things before you get even stronger feelings and end up getting hurt.