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boyf doesnt want it
| Tue, 12-28-2004 - 4:54am |
my boyfriend and me have been going out for a while now (three months of seeing each other every day) and i really adore him but sexually im getting quite frustrated.
i dont know whether he is a virgin or what but we havent made love yet and all my hints like 'i have a free house tongiht wanna sleep over' and stuff dont work.
other than that we have done everything but (oral and manual) but only once. we kiss alot but that is it.
is he just not into me sexually and how can i bring this up and seduce him without coming across as superly more experienced than him or suffer the embarasment of talking with him
x x emmalina x x

>>is he just not into me sexually and how can i bring this up and seduce him without coming across as superly more experienced than him or suffer the embarasment of talking with him<,
You can't. Honestly though, if you can't talk to him about this stuff, I seriously don't think your relationship is ready for sex anyway. If it doesn't happen naturally and easily, perhaps it's not meant to be.
How old is he, how old are you?
"Suffering the embarassment of talking to him"???? Hon, if you can't talk to him, then you have no business being sexual with him. Talking about things is what mature adults do. You don't even have a clue if he's had any previous experience? You don't even know him then....and until you learn how to communicate with him, you never will.
Maybe he's just not that into you....
Just wanted to add an extra thought to the great replies so far.
YES, talk with him. If you are truly THAT intimate with him to the point that you'd let him enter you and be sexual with you, then you're able to "open up" to him in communication as well.
REMEMBER: Make certain that your words are words of inquiry and understanding, and NOT words of pressure pressure pressure. If he doesn't want to do something, then respect his wishes; ask for understanding making him feel guilty about it. Soooo many times, that is the very key that ends up missing or even forgotten from such meaningful discussions like these.
Good luck, let us know how it goes.
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thanks everyone for your help :-)
i talked to him about everything new years eve (before we got smashed!) and evyerthing is cleared up.
basically he thought that he was pressurising me into having sex and that he wanted to take it at my pace etc.
we also said i love you for the first time :)
thanks again
xxx emmalina xxx
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