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boyfriend has no skill
| Mon, 07-04-2005 - 10:41am |
Okay i have been with my boyfriend for two years now, he is wonderful except for one huge aspect- oral sex does not come easy for him. He basically he has no idea what he is doing and well after two years i must say i am rather sick of it, i don't really find it fair how i can make him feel "good" and then he just makes me fall asleep. He knows he is bad, because well i have told him, and he asks for help but honestly i don't know what to say to him. I've never had a boyfriend before him, which may sound pathetic, so i don't have any tips or advice. If anyone could please help me, i don't know how haha, maybe if there is a website to teach him? Or personally advice, or hell even a camp i can send him to. I would appreciate anything. thanks

Well, hate to tell you but if he has asked you for help in what will feel good to you and you
Telling him how bad he is will certainly not make him feel good about himself! If he's new to it, how is he supposed to know what he's supposed to do? He asked you for your help, and you don't know what to tell him? If you know enough to tell him that you DON'T like it, then you must know what you DO like.....
Oral sex is mostly clitoral stimulation. Are you sure he even knows what or where it is? Have a "show and tell" session.....point it out to him, and then tell him what feels good.......there's only so much he can do to stimulate it....go faster, go slower, be more gentle, be more aggressive. If you don't know....then let him experiment, and then TELL him.......YES....that's what I want, or NO, not like that.
If you're not willing to work with him, don't blame him. If you want something, you have to ASK for it.
As the others have said, if you don't know what you like then how in the world is he expected to know? Hell, he even asked for help and you couldn't - and you're the one with the vagina and vulva.
Forget about thinking of ways that HE can learn how to do it. How about YOU learn how to do it? That way you can teach him how to do it and on the way you'll be able to figure out what your body likes too.