Boyfriend just not that into SEX
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| Tue, 04-26-2005 - 12:08pm |
Ok, here's the deal: Me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over a year and a 1/2, and things are really good. (We've been living together with another roomate for awhile, we're moving into our own place this saturday).
I'm 23 and he's 20 so there is a little bit of an age difference, but its never been much of an issue.
I'm very happy with him, except for one thing: He's just not that into sex. When we first started sleeping together, we'd have sex any chance we could get, but things obviously slowed down a little. But now, he's just not into it (and its been like this for months). We have about once a week... I dont think its stress, him cheating, or anything along those lines, but it does cause fights sometimes because I get upset about it. What should I do? It seems to me as something stupid to break up over but I'm not sure how to deal with it. Are there guys that just dont really LOVE SEX?
Any advice is WELCOMED!!

Have you talked to him and asked him what is going on?
We men DO have our phases, just like you ladies do, when we feel more sexual or less sexual at times. For all you know, perhaps your bf IS under some type of stress that you don't know about. Who knows.
Has he been more moody? Is he on any meds? Does he take any drugs? Does he smoke? Is he any less affectionate than before? Big question, just how sure ARE you about his feelings of moving in together and being exclusive this early in his life? Was he eager to get this going or was he simply okay with whatever you wanted?
You have some talking to do, but more importantly, you have some listening to do. When you argue, it means he isn't allowed to voice himself without fear of how you'll react. Remember, he isn't a 50 year old that is better experienced at handling that, he's a young 20, so help him be revealing his mind to you, no arguing.
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