Boyfriend is a virgin--any advice?

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Registered: 02-06-2005
Boyfriend is a virgin--any advice?
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Sat, 05-07-2005 - 2:46pm
I have been with my boyfriend for about a month now, and although the topic has not come up yet, I am almost positive he is a virgin (that's what his friend told me). I am not a virgin (we are both 21). I don't think sex is in the immediate future for us (we haven't even talked about it yet) but I am sure it will happen eventually. I was just wondering if any guys or girls had some advice for how I can make our first time go smoothly and make him less nervous. Obviously we should both be sober--I don't want it to be some drunken thing. Any other ideas? Thanks!
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 4:36pm

I would hope that between now and whenever the time becomes right, you'll have talked about it! If he is really a virgin, that doesn't mean he knows nothing, and of course on the other hand there are lots of "experienced" men that know nothing.

These days, "virgin" seems to mean that the person hasn't had intercourse, but many such "virgins" have done everything BUT have intercourse, including anal.

Talk to him, find out what he knows and what he doesn't know. Even if he wasn't a virgin, every partner is different, so it helps if he knows what you need and want, and vice versa. And, when the time comes, guide him.......as you would (or certainly should) with any new partner.