Boyfriend wants sex all the time

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Registered: 10-19-2004
Boyfriend wants sex all the time
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Thu, 10-28-2004 - 12:27pm
Is it normal that my boyfriend wants to have sex every time we see each other, which is like 3 times a week, and most of the time I spend the night at his place so we have morning sex too. I know I should be happy considering there are other couples that complain about sexless relationships, and I do enjoy sex, but I just wanted to know if it's normal that a guy wants to have sex all the time. I just don't want the relationship to become based on sex only. Thanks for your input!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-28-2004 - 12:43pm
Yes, I think it's normal for your guy to want sex BUT if you aren't comfortable with it every time you see each other, then you must say so. This is your body and your relationship so find a compromise on frequency if you're concerned that he's too focused on sex and you aren't happy with the way things are going.

IF you two go out and have a social life and enjoy other things besides sex together, then it's doubtful that he's overly focused but only you can determine that or not. Talk with him.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 10-28-2004 - 4:59pm
I think that it's quite normal given that you only see one another 3 times a week. Most couples seem to manage sex at least 3-4 times a week when they live together. Given that you are in a new and exciting relationship with a young guy it sounds very normal to me. In fact, I would expect lots of sex to be a priority for a young couple.

The relationship will only become based on sex if you let it become based on sex. Of course it will be difficult if you only see one another during the week after work to do much more than see one another at home, eat, go to bed, and have sex. But if you spend time on weekends and do other things like movies, visit friends and family, socialise at night - all the things that normal couples do, then you'll be fine.

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Thu, 10-28-2004 - 5:24pm
My bf and I live together and we have sex everyday at least once and many times twice. Escpecially on the weekends when he doesn't work as much. I don't think it is unusual at all for a man (or woman for that matter) to want sex all the time.
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Thu, 10-28-2004 - 5:41pm
I think it's very normal.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Thu, 10-28-2004 - 7:24pm

Are you serious? Isn't there some statistic out there that says men think about sex every 1.7 minutes or something?


Yes, it's normal. And, ime, the newer the relationship is, the more normal it is.


How much sex you have really doesn't matter. What matters is how much sex you have in relation to how much time you spend doing other things. If ALL you do is have sex, I'd be wary. But, if you have sex each morning and night you see each other, but you also have conversations about life, politics, tv, work, etc, then chances are there's more to it.


BF and I have sex almost every time we spend more than a couple hours together. Last week my kids were gone for 3 days and we had sex 6 times in that period. But we also cuddled and talked adn went shopping and watched movies, etc, etc, etc.



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