Boyfriend won't go down

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Registered: 10-14-2004
Boyfriend won't go down
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Sun, 04-17-2005 - 8:23am
My boyfriend of 2 and 1/2 years wont go down on me. He did a year ago for a few months but hasn't since. It's always clean shaven. I go down on him all the time. Why doesn't he return the favour?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 04-17-2005 - 8:50am
Have you talked to him about it?

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Sun, 04-17-2005 - 10:53am

You've been with him for 2.5 years. After 1.5 year, he started doing it, and then after a few months he stopped again. Why did he suddenly start? Why did he suddenly stop? Only he knows the answer to that, and only he can tell you why. You need to ask HIM.

What does "clean shaven" have to do with it? Men have been giving oral sex for millions of years on women who were "natural". If a man doesn't do it, it has nothing to do with whether or not you shave. It has to do with their own "hang-ups".....they think it's "dirty" or unnatural, or they'll say the smell or the taste turns them off.

As for you doing it for him, you might mention that you feel it's one-sided, and you love doing it for him, so why can't he reciprocate?

You've been with him for 2.5 years, and there's no reason you can't talk to him about it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 04-17-2005 - 5:32pm

Could be one of many reasons.

He may have become lazy or he satisfied his curiousity about cunnilingus and is content to lay back and let you please him now.

Maybe he didn't think that you enjoyed it.

BUT, since you DO enjoy it and miss it, you should ask for what you want. The squeaky wheel gets the grease!

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Registered: 02-19-2005
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 10:14am
Each individual is different in their desires and fantasies in sex. My wife never like to do cunilingus. But I crave to do it to her. I have no idea about the solution.
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Registered: 11-15-2003
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 2:38pm

Dear jh,

As others here have said, you need to ask him because anything else is just a guess and we or you could be completely incorrect. It's always best not to make assumptions.

Having said that, he may just not like it. Everyone has likes or dislikes when it comes to sex and we all have a right to not do something that we don't like. HOWEVER, sex is like everything else...it is in a constant state of flux...it changes continually. So what one likes this year, the next year he/she may like (and the reverse).

The important thing is to express your desire for oral sex and also if he does do it, tell him how much you like it. Men love to hear positive feedback on their lovemaking.

Peace.
Scott.