breasts -question

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breasts -question
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 7:26pm

Not sure what emotion to use..

Men when you want to start or engage in intercourse -what does it mean to you to touch, suck etc her breast and or nipple and and why do you feel drawn to it? also what are you feeling inside when you are touching it with your mouth and or with your hand etc. ? and which do you prefer to do the sucking of the breast as a whole or the nipple and or both? and do you continuually touch the nipple and or breast throughout foreplay and intercourse? Do you feel something is lacking if you haven't sucked her breasts etc.? mainly the sucking of her breasts...

Judith

And Women: for those of you who have had kids what meaning does it have for you when he is sucking on your breast vs the child and so on and why do you like it when he does it and so on -not sure how to say this- other than the obvious -how is that sexual and different for you when a child does it for nourishment. for you when if you have breastfed your kids other than the obvious -which would you prefer him sucking and and whatever it is that comes from that... how do you feel when he is doing it etc?

Judith

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: sjudma
Fri, 06-16-2006 - 8:35pm

There is no comparison (for me anyway) with nursing a child and having my husband suck my breasts.


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Registered: 03-18-2005
In reply to: sjudma
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 12:30am
Tish pretty much hit the nail on the head for me with her post. Im sure most women feel exactly the same way we do. I would think what Tish said (and I totally agree with her) would be common sense to most people. Especially a woman like yourself-Judith.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: sjudma
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 1:17am

You don't need emoticons to ask a question. What you need to ask a question is to ASK a question, a sensible one, that can be answered sensibly.

Nursing a baby has NOTHING to do with sex! Anyone who would compare it to sex, or even think of it in a sexual context has a very strange mind.

A man may or may not be interested in women's breasts. Some men aren't. Some women enjoy touching, fondling or other kinds of breast play, other women don't particularly enjoy it, and some women dislike it intensely.

Tell us how YOU feel about it.

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Registered: 01-08-2006
In reply to: sjudma
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 8:45am

I think Tish pretty much summed up my feelings on this subject.

As far as which I prefer, that's like comparing apples and oranges. My husband sucking on my breasts is a completely different experience than nursing my children.

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Registered: 01-05-2006
In reply to: sjudma
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 12:09pm

Thank you -not sure what emotion to use-"help"working through something.

But what do you experience what is the feeling that you expeirence when he sucks and -I agree that it is different than nursing children-and do you feel it inside and what is the difference when it comes to the feeling vs the children feeding? do you like his sucking and how do you see his sucking (I agree with you that it is different) but how is it differnt in what you experience and so on what is it that you experience/feel etc? How do you see him when he is doing so?

Judith

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Registered: 01-05-2006
In reply to: sjudma
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 12:13pm

I agree that it is different but I am working through stuff lets just suffice it to say. I realize that is common sense but I need a response from a woman. just the same.

Judith

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: sjudma
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 12:44pm

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Registered: 01-08-2006
In reply to: sjudma
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 3:24pm

I am not exactly sure what you are asking here. You should try making each question separate, not running them all together.

The reason my husband sucking on my breasts is different than nursing my children is that I don't have sexual feelings for my children. Sex is mostly in your head. If I am not feeling sexual, I won't be aroused, no matter who is doing the sucking.

Look at it this way - if my husband came up to me and fondled my breast, I would likely find that arousing, because he is my husband and I love him and I have those feelings for him. However, if a strange man came up and fondled my breasts, I would likely feel offended and violated. It's the same action, but different feelings because of where I am in my head at that time.

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Registered: 04-19-2006
In reply to: sjudma
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 10:10pm
I really could not have said that better Tish...thats exactly it. when you are feeding your child there is no "sexual arousement" happening just a joyful thought of you nourishing your child. when your dh or so is at the breast ther eis more happening...it IS for sexual pleasure and therefore your mind tells you that it FEELS good. I couldnt do both at the same time...in other words when I was Bf my son I couldnt have my hubby touch my breasts(nor did he want to for fear of getting breast milk in his mouth, some men enjoy this, my dh did not.) in the same way as before...not until I stopped bfing could we resume normal breast "foreplay".