Busty cleavage, whats your thought?

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Busty cleavage, whats your thought?
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Thu, 10-14-2004 - 11:09am

Busty cleavage, whats your thought?



  • Too flirtatious, no sense of self respect.
  • Sometimes just innocently trying to be a tiny bit more attractive.
  • With professional attire, very self-confident.
  • Inappropriate; kids and churchgoers shouldn't be exposed to that.
  • Who cares, enjoy it or ignore it.
  • Other.


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Avatar for katmandoo2001
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 11:32am
I said "other" because obviously, a woman isn't trying to be "innocently more attractive" or show "self confidence" when she purposely enhances and shows off her cleavage. Not in this boob-obsessed society we live in! She is trying to be sexually provocative, either to her partner and/or to other people. She's trying to get attention.

I personally don't think this type of display is ever appropriate for daily wear, though, much less in an office setting....IF you want to be taken seriously, that is. And besides, many an employer would send you home for wearing distractive and provocative dress anyway.

With my DH in an evening setting, then it's more attune with the personal and intimate nature of the occasion.




Edited 10/14/2004 12:11 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

Avatar for sugarbeat
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Thu, 10-14-2004 - 4:16pm
Busty cleavage is pretty damn hard to ignore. I'm very busty myself and I rarely, if ever, show cleavage. The way I see it, they're so big that they are hard to ignore as it is, no need to draw even more attention to them. I will occasionally show a little on a date, but in those cases I make sure the rest of me is well covered up. What it comes down to is I want people talking to me not to my boobs and if I show cleavage the person's eyes are constantly shifting down -- most of the time that's not the effect I'm going for, but occasionally it is.
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Thu, 10-14-2004 - 6:03pm
I agree. Time and place.
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 7:44pm
OK..I'm a B cup, so I can only talk from my attitude, not my experience ;-)

I suppose that I don't want to see women feeling that they have to avoid fashions simply because they have big boobs. How dreary it would be having to shop and avoid anything that's low cut just because their cleavage may show.

You see, I'm wearing a low cut top today. Not sexy, just a pretty, summery top. Thanks to my lack of size and no bra, cleavage is not an issue - but I'd hate to think that I could not choose the same clothes if I had big boobs.

If women aren't comfortable showing their cleavage, that's their choice. However, I don't feel that we as a society should penalise those who are blessed with cleavage by expecting them to cover up.

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Avatar for sugarbeat
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 8:09pm
You can say that about any body part though...short shorts with but cheeks hanging out, super low cut jeans so you have to shave your pubes to wear them or your butt crack is hanging out, etc. It's not about penalizing them, it's more about propriety. Out on the town at night it may be appropriate, at work it's not (unless presenting yourself in a sexual way is appropriate for your job). People judge people all the time and if someone draws attention to their sexuality constantly that's how they will be perceived. People usually select certain cuts of clothing to flatter their bodies or because it is appropriate attire for the occasion (i.e. work, wedding, night out) and covering or not covering cleavage is part of that.

I've worked in many corporations and no-one that has a position with much responsibility shows cleavage at work because that's not what they want people to see first and since breasts are a sexualized body feature that is what people will think of first when they see it.

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 8:18pm
Ahhh, I've been out of the workforce for too long....I can only get my head around day-to-day wear. Yes, I also like to see women dressed for business when they are at work - just like a man does.

>>short shorts with but cheeks hanging out, super low cut jeans so you have to shave your pubes to wear them or your butt crack is hanging out<<

I suppose that when I speak of fashion, I'm referring to normal clothes...the type of thing you find at Target or fashion chains. Something that wouldn't generally be considered provocative.

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Thu, 10-14-2004 - 9:28pm
While I would never wear plunging necklines at work, I don't have a problem with a hint of cleavage (going out is another story, lol, more than a hint). But I'm large - and unless I wear things buttoned up to my collarbone, I can't hide the fact that I have breasts. Sometimes, in some fairly high Vnecks, you can still see a hint of cleavage, especially because I wear well fitting, expensive bras that give me wonderful support.

And you know what? I don't care. Legs can be pretty sexy too, but no one suggests we not wear skirts or hose or high heels to show them off. Hips and rears are sexy, but no one thinks twice about wearing fitted pants that accentuate them, even at work (I'm not talking butt cleavage or tight, TIGHT pants). Long hair can be sexy but I'm not going to wear it up in a librarian's bun every day to minimize it. So if you can see a hint of cleavage, if you notice that gee, I've got breasts! it's not a concern to me. I refuse to be all buttoned up and prim just because I've got curves.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 9:38pm
That's what I mean (in my other post) about what I wear. Not about low-riders with peeka-a-boo thongs, or a plunging neckline with pushup bra, but just a vneck sweater and nice dress pants. If I wear that, you're probably going to be able to see cleavage, at least if you're looking for it. I've never gone to work dressed unprofessionally or in revealing clothing, but if I can't even buy a nice inexpensive Vneck top at Walmart to wear to work in the summer....

There's appropriate and innappropriate and I think we all know the difference. I have a favorite black velvet v-neck top I wear in the winter (with black jeans and boots) when DH and I go out. It has a deep v and of course, I wear the red VS push up bra underneath! This is still *not* a Pamela Anderson display, believe you me. It's pretty mild by most standards. But I would never wear it to work. Even in a regular work top though, it's pretty hard to miss the fact that I have breasts. I would hate to wear an Oxford-type shirt buttoned up to the top button because if I leave one unbuttoned, you can see cleavage. But I don't think that leaving that top button or two undone is asking for attention either.

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Registered: 09-29-2004
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 9:41pm
I'm a newbie here, but what about high heels? After all, they accentuate just about everything on the body, no? Legs, hips, feet, ankles, butt, waist, back, neck, head....oops, yes, just about the whole body, and NOT to mention attitude. When I'm in heels, I'm transformed, body and mind. ;-)
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Sat, 10-16-2004 - 4:53am
I have been exposed to women who show the wares and do not take offense. I enjoy the veiw for what is there and accept that that is the purpose of the show. Good for me and others have commented about not noticing it!!! even though it was exposed.

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