can gurls get satisfied without orgasm
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can gurls get satisfied without orgasm
| Fri, 07-02-2004 - 1:40pm |
hi,
i'm also confused about gurls and orgasm. i'm twenty and i think a lot about sex (mabe thats what actually pressures me ).
You see i've only had sex with one person other than my gurl friend. she was an experienced gurl so i felt kind of nervouse when actually puting my penis inside her (with th foreplay and the rest i could tell i did a good, like i am used to it and i can easyly tell i'm on the right track). the problem is the sex itself (i got so nearvouse and excited i came in about a minute). she did not complain, actually she wanted to do it with me more often (i mean whenever she saw me which was like eveydaylike i did a good job which i think i didn't because i came fast...
Actually the question is about my gurl friend she has had only i boy friend before me (she says he is the only guy she has had sex with). Well she as never had an orgasm (we've had sex just a couple of times) but she says anything sex i make her feel good and satisfy her (but i dont think so because i dont understand how a gurl feels satisfied without an orgasm).
i dont want to ask her too much questions less she thinks i worry too much and she staet thinking too.( i just want to give her as much as i can.. i enjoy it when i'm sure she loves what i,m doing).
QUESTION
DO YOU THINK SHE IS REALLY SATISFIED AND HOW DO I KNOW
HOW DO YOU FEEL WHEN U HER SATISFIED (NO ORGASM)
i'm also confused about gurls and orgasm. i'm twenty and i think a lot about sex (mabe thats what actually pressures me ).
You see i've only had sex with one person other than my gurl friend. she was an experienced gurl so i felt kind of nervouse when actually puting my penis inside her (with th foreplay and the rest i could tell i did a good, like i am used to it and i can easyly tell i'm on the right track). the problem is the sex itself (i got so nearvouse and excited i came in about a minute). she did not complain, actually she wanted to do it with me more often (i mean whenever she saw me which was like eveydaylike i did a good job which i think i didn't because i came fast...
Actually the question is about my gurl friend she has had only i boy friend before me (she says he is the only guy she has had sex with). Well she as never had an orgasm (we've had sex just a couple of times) but she says anything sex i make her feel good and satisfy her (but i dont think so because i dont understand how a gurl feels satisfied without an orgasm).
i dont want to ask her too much questions less she thinks i worry too much and she staet thinking too.( i just want to give her as much as i can.. i enjoy it when i'm sure she loves what i,m doing).
QUESTION
DO YOU THINK SHE IS REALLY SATISFIED AND HOW DO I KNOW
HOW DO YOU FEEL WHEN U HER SATISFIED (NO ORGASM)

When I first started having sex I never had an orgasm. Sex felt "nice" and most of what I liked about it was the emotional intimacy and that it gave my boyfriend pleasure. I had no clue what an orgasm felt like, nor did I or my boyfriend know about the clitoris as the source of pleasure for most women. It took about 6 months for us to figure it out (and for me to actually voice what felt good (clitoral stimulation)). Soon after I had my first orgasm.
A lot of times young couples focus only on intercourse because they don't know any better or the girls have a hard time expressing what they really want. So educate yourself, there are plenty of informative sites on the web. I like sexuality.org, some here recommend the-clitoris.com.
Another key to female pleasure is not to over focus on her having an orgasm, but rather focus on what gives her pleasure. If the knowledge, trust and communication is there the orgasm will eventually come, be patient. Sometimes girls can be scared about letting go and feeling the pleasure because they've never felt anything like that before and may stop you when they get close to orgasm. When you talk to her or do things to her try to make your focus her pleasure rather than the goal of orgasm. When orgasm is the goal it can cause anxiety and lessen the chances of it happening. It's kind of counter intuitive, but that's what is likely to work.
Some women NEVER have orgasms...but they still get pleasure from sex. A woman is different than men. Women have to LEARN how to have orgasms. Some never do. A man can't GIVE a woman an orgasm....it's up to her to learn how and to allow it to happen.
As Sugarbeat said, you need to learn more about women, and how their bodies work. A good site is www.the-clitoris.com Most important for you to learn is that the vagina is NOT what will produce orgasms......but the clitoris might, if she knows how to let it happen. Women like intercourse, but the real "feelings" and excitement come from the clitoris, NOT the vagina.
Talk to her, and encourage her to talk to you....take lots of time with the "foreplay" because that's probably what will eventually give her orgasms. THEN you move on to intercourse, for your own pleasure.