Can he be TOO big?

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Can he be TOO big?
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Fri, 08-19-2005 - 10:07am


After many years of complaining about small penis' I think I've ran into a worse problem. I didn't think it was possible, but I think my new sex partner is "bottoming out." I always thought this was a joke! But it hurts kinda while we have sex each time his penis hits it, and then really hurts after sex. I don't know if there is any way to avoid this without letting go of my favorite positions!

He said he's never had this problem before, which I don't believe because he is very big! Could I have a small vagina? (I feel stupid asking that.)

Or are we just not compatible?

GRR! He's really good too!

Kayla

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Registered: 05-22-2003
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 5:15pm
There are trade-offs in life. Everything isn't perfect or the way we want all the time. She's in a situation that is good (with an Alpha Male), but tinged with some bad (mild pain during sex). People in this thread are trying to help her cope with the bad by suggesting alternative positions, etc.
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Fri, 08-19-2005 - 5:21pm
Life is a contest. If you ever watch Discovery Channel shows about baboons, for instance, you'll see that each group has an Alpha Male. He has a harem, his choice of mates, and others of both sexes defer to him. We humans are not so different. The difference is that we have manufactured romantic rules like "one woman per man" and "every sexual act should be perfect" when the reality is that some men are better than others.
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Fri, 08-19-2005 - 5:32pm
LOL! Sorry, but the difference is that humans have reasoning brains. We can make choices based on reason.
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Fri, 08-19-2005 - 5:35pm

Yes, people are trying to help her, just as I have by making suggestions to her.


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Fri, 08-19-2005 - 5:42pm

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Fri, 08-19-2005 - 5:45pm
you all have to admit this post (not the original post or poster) is HILARIOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Fri, 08-19-2005 - 5:54pm
i think you r just getting the hang of this new 'bigness" in your life but i have been there before just enjoy it and yes it is normal to have a large organ .By the way is he african american.
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Fri, 08-19-2005 - 5:55pm

Bottom line, if a man is way below average or way above, it will take more adjustment, cooperation and patience to learn to have satisfying sex but it's doable. But personally, that's why I prefer average. I rarely have to worry about having my cervix hit or feeling uncomfortable. It's just pure pleasure from start to finish.

I don't want to have to deep breath my way through sex with a huge guy and I don't have to worry that what I may inadvertently say or do something that might hurt a smaller partner's sensitive feelings about his size. Thank God for the average guy.




Edited 8/19/2005 5:58 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Fri, 08-19-2005 - 6:29pm

A man of size must be careful of the thrusting angle. The cervix normally lifts up when excited to avoid the 'traffic', but women vary. Even then a guy can angle and push against it. Most guys crave that sensation of being totally enveloped at some point and movement provides heavenly stimulation. Her guy must learn how to adjust his angle of insertion, then he can reach back behind her cervix without touching/banging it. A lady can also move her hips to adjust the angle.

> And since when did a big penis make a man the Alpha Male?
Penis size does indirectly "tend" to make a man more alpha male. Those things hanging and swinging around below it make most of a man's testosterone. That hormone directly affects a male's libido and much of growth of the penis. It stands to reason a male with larger genitals tends to be more aggressive. He will tend to both keep other males away from his female and deposit a larger amount deeper than his competition. Few sperm ever get credit for coming in second place.

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Sat, 08-20-2005 - 12:49am

Is he African American? Why would you ask that? Did they teach you in your medical school that African Americans have bigger "organs"? Organs? Does he have a Wurlitzer?

African American penises come in all sizes, from small to average to big, just as Caucasian penises do.

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