Can he be TOO big?

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Registered: 08-08-2005
Can he be TOO big?
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Fri, 08-19-2005 - 10:07am


After many years of complaining about small penis' I think I've ran into a worse problem. I didn't think it was possible, but I think my new sex partner is "bottoming out." I always thought this was a joke! But it hurts kinda while we have sex each time his penis hits it, and then really hurts after sex. I don't know if there is any way to avoid this without letting go of my favorite positions!

He said he's never had this problem before, which I don't believe because he is very big! Could I have a small vagina? (I feel stupid asking that.)

Or are we just not compatible?

GRR! He's really good too!

Kayla

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Registered: 07-01-2004
Sun, 08-21-2005 - 10:26am

I am right there with you. My husband is very big also. Sometimes when he goes in a certain way it sends me threw the roof in pain. It doesnt always happen, just seems like when he trys to go to fast. I have often wondered why it hurt me and after reading some of these messages i think ive found my answer..But I totally feel ya girl...

Randi

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 08-21-2005 - 11:31am

I get this picture of 2 *macho* men who think they are God's gift to women


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Registered: 05-22-2003
Sun, 08-21-2005 - 2:17pm

You doubters might want to think about WHY men want to have large penises.

It's not because they imagine women prefer them. At least, that's not the main reason.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 08-21-2005 - 2:27pm

Enlighten me Tom, what is the reason


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Sun, 08-21-2005 - 7:42pm

>>You doubters might want to think about WHY men want to have large penises.<<

Tom, everyone wants to have a good sized penis that will well and truely satisfy their woman. But having an enormous penis is not the answer. There is much more to this than size. I've heard men with enormous penises say that they have to be careful with how they use it. Likewise, I've heard men with small penises say that they have to be better in bed to compensate for the lack of size. Having an enormous penis and claiming to be an alpha male is not the answer. It's more complicated than that.

Some of the women here have already said that they prefer an average size penis. Just as men's experiences with different sized penises vary, women's experiences with different sized penises will vary. Some will like enormous penises, some will prefer average ones, a few will probably even prefer a smaller one.

The whole issue with penis size is the idea that bigger is better. In real life, biggest is not necessarily better. Too many men obsess over enormous penises.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Sun, 08-21-2005 - 9:29pm
It's because THEY think it's important. Size has nothing to do with pleasure or orgasms or perpetuating the human race. It's the same reason men want humongous SUVs or Hummers and 45" plasma TVs. They're overcompensating for something.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Sun, 08-21-2005 - 10:03pm
I'm not overcompensating, I'd love a 45" plasma TV.... :-)
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Mon, 08-22-2005 - 1:07pm
Yes, we know the real reason. It's to be the biggest swinging **** in the locker room! It's all about insecurity, at it's heart, and competition among men. And THAT'S why it's truly only important to men.


Edited 8/22/2005 1:10 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Mon, 08-22-2005 - 1:17pm
I HAVE seen a picture of a man with a 12" penis though. They DO exist. It's not likely that they grow much beyond that with erection though. (Or let's HOPE not, anyway!) But if one was coming MY way, I'd be gone in a flash. NO Thank You.
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Mon, 08-22-2005 - 2:26pm

I am the orginal poster, and I'm glad to have started such a debate.

There is no alpha male in regards to size. That's absurd.

I had the most MIND BLOWING sex in my life on Saturday! Didn't "bottom out" once! I think that it is progress. We just talked before hand and I told him that there were some positions that just won't work for us. He understood. (And got a cheesy smile, like he was proud to be too big. Why are guys so weird about their penis'? )

No, he isn't black. He's Norengian. He's skinny and tall. He's 6'4" and 160lbs. So the size was rather surprising. Around 10 inches. Doesn't sound bad, but the gurth is much, too. Lots of warming up is involved. But I will glady accept the challenge of taking on a larger than normal penis.

"It's not the size of the boat it's the motion in the ocean...But it takes a long time to get to England in a row boat." -Jeff Foxworthy (I found this quote appropriate.)

Thanks for all the info, if you have any more, I will gladly accept it!

Kayla

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