Can he be TOO big?
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Can he be TOO big?
| Fri, 08-19-2005 - 10:07am |
After many years of complaining about small penis' I think I've ran into a worse problem. I didn't think it was possible, but I think my new sex partner is "bottoming out." I always thought this was a joke! But it hurts kinda while we have sex each time his penis hits it, and then really hurts after sex. I don't know if there is any way to avoid this without letting go of my favorite positions!
He said he's never had this problem before, which I don't believe because he is very big! Could I have a small vagina? (I feel stupid asking that.)
Or are we just not compatible?
GRR! He's really good too!
Kayla

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I can believe that at 12 inch penis has existed .... but my comment was directed at the type suggesting a 12 foot penis ..... I don't think an elephant could walk with one of those.
CH
"I just think that a man's ego is focused entirely on the wrong things. Because if he could use it properly (big or small) it could bring the same pleasure. So I don't understand why they obsess over it."
I can tell you why from personal experience ktbug. I am on the polar opposite side of the size spectrum from your bf and (to be completely honest here) most women have been noticeably disappointed at my size when I take off my boxers. "Are you FULLY erect??!!" "Is THAT as long as you get??!!" have been a few of the questions I've been asked at the moment of unveiling.
Now you are right - IF given the opportunity to make love to her chances are very good she'll be back for seconds and thirds and on and on. Why? Because I have HAD to learn alot of skills in bed and I am focused completely on pleasing my lover when we make love. BUT I've had potential lovers shut down completely when they see my endowment status and not even give me a chance. Hence alot of us guys wonder - "I really like her ... but... is she going to like me there?" No wonder alot of us guys obsess over it!
<<<"I really like her ... but... is she going to like me there?" No wonder alot of us guys obsess over it!>>>
I think everyone is making it sound like I'm not happy with him. I am. Because I think he's worth it, I want to fix this problem I'm having so sex can be more enjoyable for both of us. I'm always being overly cautious because I don't want to be poked...and he is being overly cautious because he freaks out and gets upset when he hurts me.
I'm in my 20's, and it seems to me (IMO) that guys are focused and greatly concerned with there penis size. More than they should. Any size can be enjoyable. Some just need so adapting. Like my new bf. (And thank you to everyone that contributed to my question. It did help alot.)
We are learning from each other and are slowly learning what we can and can't do. And I really like the fact that he is being patient with me and wants to know exactly how far, which angles...etc. The first few times after I brought this up, I felt like having sex was more like a instructional lesson more than making love...lol. He was very focused, and actually wanted to make it better. But now it's getting better...and almost to the point where I'm comfortable.
I think I'm going to have to deal with being poked every now and then (instead of EVERY time...like it was before I said anything.) But I guess it comes with the territory of dating someone with a larger penis.
(blondeguitarman)
I have dated all sizes...the guy before was probably smaller than average. And I loved him...and it didn't matter his size. I never judged him before we had sex, and I'm glad I didn't, I was pleasantly surprised! This is why I say, just know what you have, and learn how to use it. I understand (as should all women) men aren't molded. Each one is different and if some women won't have sex with you because of your penis size, then you should be glad you never had sex with her.
Kayla
p.s. I never thought penis size would cause such a debate!
What an extremely successful thread this has been!
We always need to be discussing the important topic of penis size.
And nobody offered an answer to my question: why do men WANT to have big penises? Or if they did have an answer, it was: because men think women enjoy larger penises. But I think this is wrong. I think men want big penises regardless of what women think of them. Men don't imagine that size = pleasure. Any number of posts at ivillage and other places can tell you that women don't think size = pleasure. Men are not out to be great at providing pleasure. They just want to have big penises.
Hmmmm..Women don't have issues with their bodies? Women are not sensitive about certain aspects of themselves? You don't have to be careful not to hurt their "precious ego's"? Not any of that huh?
For the guys out there reading or posting. I'm sure none of us have ever had be careful about how we discuss a womans body.
Peace,
Scott.
"All I'm saying is that a guys ego seems to revolve around the size of their penis. Women do talk about how too fat/skinny/weird shaped parts on their body. But you don't hear a guy saying "honey your boobs are too little." A guy doesn't want to hear he has a too little penis. But if you tell him he has a big penis, he grins from ear to ear."
Kayla, All I'm saying is that you should read your first post. Men are not anymore concerned about the size of their penis than you are. And you mentioned that they should "know what to do with it"...That is EXACTLY what everyone here has been saying. Big or small or medium, you have to make adjustments in how you make love in order that everyone "get their cookies".
You're saying that men obsess about the size of their penis, and yet look at the title of your original post...read the first paragraph in that post.
My point in all of this, is not that you are wrong about your feelings or thoughts...only that we all have a responsibility for what we think or say. Our beliefs create our reality.
Scott.
Kat gave you her answer to
Hi Kat,
I agree. I have a hard time with hypocricy, and I find it curious that Kayla can say on one hand that her last guy was "too small" and her current guy may be "too big" and then imply that men are too sensitive about the size of their penis.
Scott.
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