Can orgasms change "style"?

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Registered: 07-11-2006
Can orgasms change "style"?
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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 9:08am

Hi, I'm new here, but it seems like the place maybe where I can find something out.

Has anyone ever experienced this, where for years and years orgasms were really intense, long build-up, have to hold off or would reach a climax too quickly and then, it changed? Now it's like that build-up is done, just gone, and I have to reach for and work to get there, and the intensity isn't the same.

Where did that feeling go? Will it come back again? I'm puzzled, has anyone else ever had this happen?

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:36am

Orgasms CAN change, not only over the years, but from day to day!


You say they were the same for "years and years".......so is it possible that you're going thru menopause, or even perimenopause?

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:56pm

Welcome to the board, delta-blues.

The questions Sakura asked and the advice she gave was right in keeping with what I was going to say.

Can you think of any changes that have happened besides that? Stress, new job, new relationship, moved? New lover, reaching menopause, hormonal changes, birth control -- all of that can have an affect on you.





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Registered: 03-03-2008
Thu, 03-27-2008 - 2:24am

I'm going to second the other responders and recommend you get a physical...Make sure they do a blood test also to check your Thyroid levels...that's usually included in a full blood panel.

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Registered: 07-11-2006
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 8:12am

Hi thaks for your reply, no it isn't peri or menopause. I am ridiculosly healthy, too.

Are you sayin that those can change your kind of orgasm? Have you had this happen? What did you do?

Because I want to hear if other people have this experience as well. And if they did, how did they deal with it and feel about it?

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Registered: 07-11-2006
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 8:14am

Thanks for the welcome, sorryit took me this much time to get back to you, I do appreciate the answers.

It could be stress, but it's not my health, like I said I'm good and haelthy.

Has this happened to you,, or anyone else? It's like I had a down-grade, I want an upgrade again.

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Registered: 07-11-2006
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 8:19am

Hi thanks for your help, no it isn't thyroid.

I should make clear, too that it is not a loss of libido it's the responce that has changed. The libido and DESIRE are there still.

Maybe I'm just not making sense here.

But I would really like to hear if other women have experienced this. I hear about women getting the upgrade and all, has anyone had a downgrade but the libido and desire are intact?

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 9:13am

Good physical health is important, and so is good mental health.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 9:32am

The only time that I've had changes in my actual orgasm ability or intensity (in a downward way) was when I either wasn't happy sexually with my partner or when I was trying to have orgasms more frequently.

The stress can be a huge factor, and in both of my incidences, I would say it was in my head more than anything. There was a point where I had a huge increase in my libido and did a lot of experimenting with different ways to have orgasms. I think I over-stressed myself about it, was trying too hard, too often, and for a couple of weeks, it just wasn't happening. Like you, the desire was there ... just the mind was not.







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