Can someone explain this to me?
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Can someone explain this to me?
| Tue, 06-29-2004 - 2:28pm |
ok, here's the deal. I'm 22 years old, my boyfriend is 24, we've been going out for about 4 months now, and within the last month or so, it seems he never wants to have sex with me anymore. He is currently out of work and i work a very stressful job, and it always seems to be me making all the moves on him. At first he couldn't get enough of me, so it seemed and now, when I want sex, he's not in the mood. 9 out of 10 times, if i put the moves on him, he'll turn me down. it seems the only way i can get him to have sex with me is if i guilt him into it, saying that i do so much for him and he can't even sleep with me, that's when he'll roll over and make the moves on me. he says it's nothing to do with me, that it's all him, well, it's kinda hard to believe when i come home and find a porno in the dvd player. he wants sex, just not with me. I love him, and he tells me he loves me.
help me, what should i do, should i try different things or just leave it alone, that it'll work itself out? HELP!!

When a guy isn't working, feeling unproductive and dependent, it affects his self esteem and his sex drive, too. So, basically, he's feeling less than manly in life right now so it affects his desire in the bedroom.
But I think you should ask him to lay off the porn and masturbation for a while so that you aren't being neglected. IF he felt that he was taking care of you in the bedroom, it could help him to feel better about himself, not to mention relieve some stress and tension. I doubt that lonely masturbation can match lovemaking for doing that.
Talk with him and encourage him.
IF he refuses to comply with your request...you have 2 choices. Continue giving him everything he wants and become resentful in the process or go on an oral strike until he gets the picture. No oral without reciprocation. I don't think that's too much to ask.