Can Trust Be Regained in a Relationship?

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Can Trust Be Regained in a Relationship?
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Sun, 09-19-2004 - 12:24am

I have read serval post about affairs, and one thing that comes up a lot is being honest

  

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Fri, 09-24-2004 - 3:40pm
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Tish I agree with your statement and my question is when someone violates your trust there has to be some process that you follow that allows you to believe them again. Checking up on what they tell you can be one or you can convince your self some other way that they are trust worthy. Some people who you love but don't love you in the same way can use your love and desire to trust them to convince you that they are trust worthy and then after a little break start deceiving you again. I am not one that likes to be deceived, it makes me feel like a fool, so I would tend to cull people who deceive me early and I might drop someone who really would reform but I would rather be there than be deceived a second time.


Edited 9/24/2004 3:58 pm ET ET by txguy2004

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Fri, 09-24-2004 - 4:21pm

No, I don't like to be deceived either and I do have trust issues, not with Dh but with people in general, so I guess I'm going by myself on how or why I would trust someone again.


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Fri, 09-24-2004 - 4:34pm

lol....ROTFLMAO..


Makes sense to me!

  

   who_reallyknows

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Fri, 09-24-2004 - 5:36pm
Tish I guess I will have be good for one more day, I just have to take it a day at a time anyway. I agree that a decision to trust someone is an inexact process and getting to that point isn't all that clear to most of us. For me it is a fealing I get based on how people behave around me and I am not sure really what factors triger it. I do know when it is gone it is pretty much gone forever for me.

Best wishes !!!

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Sat, 09-25-2004 - 1:04am

I think you are cutting yourself out of finding someone new that you can trust and leaving the cheater behind in the dust of the past.


I think It would be hard to leave me behind (lol)...


My d/h never cheated, I did,but I agree with you

  

   who_reallyknows

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Sat, 09-25-2004 - 2:11am

  

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