Can the vagina be smaller?
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Can the vagina be smaller?
| Wed, 09-08-2004 - 2:36am |
I have had sex with 5 partners total. My first partner expressed surprise when I lost my virginity because he said I was not very "tight". I am a petite woman in good health but this complex I have about the size of my vagina has caused me to refrain from having a boyfriend for several years now.
It seems to help just a little bit if I can not get too excited because then I tend to get very ,very lubricated and that makes it all the more slippery- dryness feels a little tighter. Of course the dryness is not very stimuating for me and normally only happens if sex occurs for more than 20 minutes. I get so excited about the anticipation but wind up feeling not much sensation.
I had one partner (my last one) who was not very long but was quite thick- this was the absolute best sex of my life but I think he was exceptional and it may be hard to find another man like him. There were even had times with him when it felt too loose.
It seems to help just a little bit if I can not get too excited because then I tend to get very ,very lubricated and that makes it all the more slippery- dryness feels a little tighter. Of course the dryness is not very stimuating for me and normally only happens if sex occurs for more than 20 minutes. I get so excited about the anticipation but wind up feeling not much sensation.
I had one partner (my last one) who was not very long but was quite thick- this was the absolute best sex of my life but I think he was exceptional and it may be hard to find another man like him. There were even had times with him when it felt too loose.
So,I went to two different GYN's. They did an exam and said it felt like my vagina was very normal in size- nothing can be done but to try the kegal excercises. I have been doing those faithfully for several months.
I was just wondering if there are people out there that experience this issue? What do you do?

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Most women's vaginas, no matter what the "size", are closed tight when not "in use", and when aroused, the muscles relax to allow a penis to enter. Some women probably have muscles that relax more easily, or are more easily aroused than others. There is also the lubrication.....some women produce copious amounts, others produce little or none. If a woman is extremely wet, there will be less "friction" and therefore less feeling for both parties involved.
For women, since there's not much feeling in the vagina anyway....it's not as big a problem as it might be for her partner. But, since intercourse is only ONE part of sex, to reject a person based only on their vaginal or penile size doesn't make sense. Not if you're looking for a good person to have a relationship with. If it's casual sex that you want, and "feelings" aren't involved.....then go for the big ones. The hard thing about that is that unless you literally check it out, you'll never know until the "moment of truth". A guy that's 6'6" can have a very small penis, and a guy that's 5'6" can have a huge one.
I was watching a TV show about plastic surgeons the other day, and believe it or not, a male plastic surgeon was asking another male plastic surgeon to do liposuction over his pubic bone, because he felt it was too "fat" and made his penis look too small. The other one said......"mine isn't for 'show'.....it's for 'grow'". I guess as plastic surgeons, they're much more in tune with "looks" than most men would be. The ability to use it, and every other tool they have is more important than "look" in most women's estimation.
There are a couple of forums on-line I've come across that cater to the more well endowed. Google the words large penis support group and you'll find them. Like everywhere else on-line, I'm sure there are people that aren't completely honest. I don't post there, but I sometimes enjoy (and envy) some of their stories.
Some of them may appreciate you more than you know. Although something the size of a baby can pass through a vagina, it doesn't make it enjoyable for a woman to deal with a guy that big.
I'm a wee bit on the thicker side of average, but I find this position to be the tighest sensation for me:
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/sex/no/articles/0,,544153_633458-6,00.html
As far as excercises, I've heard kegelmastsers are good. Do a Google search for "onyx egg" and vagina. Some people swear by it.
Lastly, I've seen the singles ads on the personals (back in my single days I did glance one in a while) where women ask for men who were more ample. Nothing wrong with having a preference.
Edited 9/9/2004 10:25 am ET ET by muttley44
You don't think asking would be completely arrogant and rude?
I thought about this a bit more and as long as a women was tactful about what she was asking, I don't think I'd be offened by anything she asked.
Edited 9/9/2004 4:12 pm ET ET by sexismyforte
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