Can you help me??????

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Registered: 07-08-2007
Can you help me??????
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Sun, 07-08-2007 - 11:59pm
Ive never had sex yet, i dont know how to go about doing it. I guess im scared, im not realy good talking to girls, im not the most attractive person out there. Any help??????
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 2:12am

How old are you? Instead of worrying about sex, why not just try to find a girl that you CAN talk to? Then you take her out and get to know her. And then, when the time is right, you'll know what to do, and if you need her help, she'll help you.

Being "attractive" has very little to do with girls being "attracted" to you. They're two different things. If you're a nice guy, and you treat a woman nicely, with respect, and try to make them happy.......they'll be attracted to you.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 7:09am

Welcome to the board themanwhohasntyet.



I'm not sure how old you are or how you are going about talking to girls, but your focus should be on meeting girls and perhaps on sharpening your people skills. There are several boards on iVillage for those that are dating or rejoining the dating scene. Click here to be taken to a page with a list of all the Love & Sex boards, and scroll to the Singles & Dating section. There is even a board called Like a Virgin.



I think you are more likely to encounter people on the dating boards that either share a similar circumstance, or who can give you advice about dating in todays world.



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Registered: 03-08-2004
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 11:36am

Instead of focusing on not having had sex yet, focus on becoming more comfortable with yourself, with being around women,

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Registered: 07-15-2007
Sun, 07-15-2007 - 7:23pm

The other responses are dead on.

Spend time becoming comfortable in your own skin. Get confident with who YOU are. My wife tells me that is one of my sexiest qualities is that I'm comfortable with myself. And I bet most women would agree (as a general statement about men that is).

One of the things I did when I was in high school/college was to begin focusing on one skill I had and really developing it. Whether it's reading, writing, health/excercise, music etc etc - find one thing you're good at (or would like to be) and focus on developing that skill/talent.

That will help you feel more pride and sense of accomplishment, which in turn builds confidence in yourself.

If you're chasing sex for the sake of sex, you're only chasing down disappointment.

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