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can you help me??
| Sun, 01-16-2005 - 7:55am |
hi i was wondering if you could help me,
my boyfriend of a year has an obsession with my bottom, its all he ever used 2 talk about and pay attention to, i have been dieting for a while now im really thin now but with two problems, i dont hav an bum no more and i also dont have breasts no more either, i think hes starting to loose intrest, how could i get my bum and breasts back without putting on weight?
please help me, hes the most important person in my life and i dont want him to loose intrest
thank you in advance

I am curious as to how much weight you lost and how you lost it. Sounds familiar, like tons of starving, but with exercise, I wouldn't expect you to lose your rear 'that' much that he'd notice such a stark difference like this.
I'd think staying healthy staying thin would keep your ribs/chest at a nice level that would still enhance the bust somewhat, but thats just my own thinking. Keeping up with the exercise, I'd also think that such activity would rather "tone" your rear rather than simply shrink it away.
Only idea I have is that if you dieted without the toning exercising, then I'd pick up on that toning schedule. Only clue I can personally think of based upon what you've mentioned.
This TRULY isn't the first time I've read/heard about a guy adoring a more "packaged" body of a girlfriend the way that body was and then didn't seem as excited about it when she started losing that nice package that he liked. Not saying its common, but boy does it happen more than we think.
Hopefully he'll enjoy your body for YOU as well as for how attractive it is on its own.
I look forward to the replies coming up, I think this'll be quite the interesting topic you started and we'll all learn something I'm sure. :)
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Are you a bum and breasts, or are you a person? If that's all he's interested in...then he wouldn't be much of a loss.
YOU should be the most important person in your life, and if you feel you need to starve yourself to please him, then your priorities are seriously messed up. If a man loves you, he love the WHOLE you, no matter what size your bum or your breasts.
Starving is not the way to lose weight, and "pads" don't change your body. A sensible diet, and exercise is how you lose weight and re-shape your body.
There are no pads that will make you loose fat and gain muscle tone.
I do agree with others that if your bf was only interested in your bum and breasts, then he's not the one for you anyways... However, I'll suggest another possible point of view.
He met you, a size 12 girl, and found you so attractive. Within a year you turned into a size 8, by choosing to be anorexic. So when you're together, you don't eat and starve yourself. It's becoming less fun being with you, because sometimes it's dreadful having dinner with someone who doesn't eat, or maybe you've lost energy to do activities you used to do. Maybe he's turned off by your physical change OR your obssessive attitude with dieting OR a combination of both factors.
I think maybe you should seek professonal help with your self-esteem issue. As far as wanting to lose more weight and gain some bums, exercise and eat properly, but this means nothing if you don't learn how to be happy with yourself.