Can you scare men away..................

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Registered: 03-15-2006
Can you scare men away..................
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Wed, 09-06-2006 - 1:16pm

Hey all!

This is just a general question that I would love to hear viewpoints on. I would especially love to if a couple guys could get in on the and voice their opinions!

Do you think, that you can scare a guy away by wanting sex too much?

I.E. I am a woman and I have a very HIGH sex drive! I just hooked up with an ex boyfriend recently and want to do it again and again and again........

Anyhow, can you scare someone away by wanting sex too much?

Thoughts???

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 2:16pm
If a guy wants to be with you, you can't scare him away. If you're just using him for sex, he'll know that, and he'll get tired of being used.
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Registered: 03-15-2006
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 3:13pm

Thanks Dakine, that's good to know.

I do like him, he is actually an ex-bf.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 3:33am

Yes, you can scare them away if you are too needy and you have nothing else going on in your life other than wanting to have sex. Is wanting sex continuously a way for you to get attention? If so, most guys would initially give you that attention but would eventually get bored of it. Also, are you having orgasms? Maybe you want it all the time because you are in a perpetual state of arousal and not getting a release.

Just some things to think about.

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Registered: 12-27-2005
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 3:34am

Guys DO NOT "get tired of being used for sex". Guys LOVE getting used for sex. Any guy that doesn't like getting used for sex must have other issues...

I'd just be honest and tell him that you love having sex with him and you want to do it all the time. He'll love that.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 7:35am

Have to disagree with you there.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 11:58am

That's just another myth and generalization that's always made about men. It's almost as common as the one about a man alway wanting sex. LOL!

But no one wants to be used for anything. While a man may welcome spontaneous, random, even casual sex, most would not honestly want to be used, at any time, anymore than a woman would. In the right circumstances, within reason, with someone they love and trust, well, that's a different story. But even then, no one enjoys feeling used, as if you're just scratching an itch.

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Registered: 09-22-2004
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 5:54pm
I appreciate a girl like that! Its much better than the direct opposite. I guess the only time i might have issue is if I am really busy doing something important or am not feeling well for whatever reason. Otherwise bring it!!!!
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Registered: 01-07-2005
Fri, 09-08-2006 - 1:03am
Because he has nicknamed me Greedy and he's still around (almost 2 years), I'm gonna say no!
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Registered: 10-30-2003
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 10:05pm

Hello Cutie,

You could scare some men off. I have heard some men comment about a woman that they thought had a sex drive so high that then felt like they couldn't trust her to stay with them.

I've never been scared of a woman's sex drive. I like it and expect it. If she is healthy. She should have a good sex drive. An issue for me is: Is she playing safe. Is she "clean". Once that issue is cleared go for the gusto!

My understanding is some men may have problems meeting a woman's sex drive and a man like that might be scared off from a woman that has a high sex drive.

The simplest thing to do is to talk about it with him.
If you are afraid to talk about it with him then you are going to have to figure it out by trial and error. Very few people can read someone's mind.

People of both sexes have varying levels of interest in sex. Many couples have to work this out. As people age the sex drives of each member will shift and not always at the same rate or in the same direction.

Talk with him and or just pay attention to what he does. If you want to be more agressive try it a little bit and see what he does. My guess is you can be quite a lot more agressive without scareing him off.

What is the most agressive thing you have done? I bet the ladies on the board could tell you some stories about how agressive they have been and the positive benifits of being more sexually agressive.

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Registered: 09-11-2006
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 10:49pm

yes u can. speakin from xperience.my husband at the time was scared 2 come 2 bed(so he said) one night. it was not like i wanted 2 kill him, just give him a good f***.needless 2 say he is now my x.

nettra

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