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Can't get wet
| Fri, 03-04-2005 - 8:41am |
hi.I have a lubrication problem.My bf tells me that I am not excited enough because I am not wet no matter how much forplay we do.I feel bad as though I am doing something wrong.I am excited but we can not have intercourse without using lube. How can I make my own lubrication so that bf knows I am excited?

It has nothing to do with how excited you are, there are women who don't lubricate naturally on there own.
I love it when a guy thinks he knows everything about a woman and her body. And then of course blames her for not reacting "properly" to whatever he's doing.
Some women don't lubricate well, PARTICULARLY when they've got pressure from their partner. Continue to use the lube, and don't let him make you feel guilty about it.
This isn't your fault. It's not like you can turn it on and turn it off. It could be a temporary thing, it could be due to some medications you're on, or it could even be HIS fault, if he's not doing the right things....You say plenty of foreplay, but if it's not done right, he might as well not do it.
This is his problem, not yours, and don't let him make YOU feel bad about it. Too bad about his poor ego. If he really understood how women's bodies work, he wouldn't be blaming you.
Well, your BF is wrong. Inform (and educate) him that you have no control over the amount of lubrication you produce. That's involuntary, much as the amount of semen HE produces. Ask him if he would enjoy being pressured to produce more ejaculate.
Hormones determine the amount of lubrication we each produce at any given time so the amount we produce can also be affected by where we are in our menstrual cycle.
Artificial lubes were created because of a need and they sell well because we ALL need them at least periodically. And many, like yourself, need them regularly.
Edited 3/4/2005 11:11 am ET ET by katmandoo2001